Okay darlings! After 2 months of promising a new blog here is one of sheer epicness! (I'm warning you now that it's going to be lengthy with few pictures. I understand if you choose to move on to more interesting endeavors.)
First I must go back to the end of July and explain something that happened then. My husband and I decided that it was time to get a divorce. We haven't been happy with each other in a long time and it was getting to that point that if we weren't mature about it and go ahead and do things civilly we might end up being terrible to each other in the long run. It wasn't anything one of us did. We just sort of fell apart. It was mutual and we are still friends, we just can't live together anymore. We agreed to split custody of Connor and have an open relationship until such time that we could get the papers filed.
Well I explained that my bestie was moving away. After she'd been gone for about 3 weeks, she invited me to move in with her. My in-laws were being terrible because I was spending so much time with her anyway (obviously that means I'm getting drunk constantly and sleeping around with every guy I laid my eyes on
) so I decided to go ahead and go. I explained to her that I was doing this with no car and no current job so I was going to need her to be patient while I settled in and worked everything out. She said that this wouldn't be a problem.
Not a week after I moved in she also moved in her boyfriend. It was her apartment so I didn't have a problem with that. I didn't particularly like him (he's a bit of a douche) and he made it clear that he didn't like me at all, but I continued to be civil and just overlook the times when he was down right rude.
Also I was driving back for a couple of days every two weeks to see Connor because we didn't have enough room for him to stay with us and I didn't want to take him away from his dad. Plus all of our family lives right around here. I'd rather Connor have the majority of his family than just his mother.
For a while this arrangement worked splendidly. I was happy and so was everyone else. Then my bestie introduced me to Kerry.
I wasn't looking for a relationship and neither was he. So it was the perfect arrangement. He was sweet and fun (and incredibly cute) and best of all, expected nothing in return from me. We screwed around and on weekends when everyone wanted to go out, he was game (as long as he didn't have to dance a whole lot ). But then something happened. I realized I actually liked this guy. Yes, I realize that it's extremely soon. You'd think after 7 years of being with someone I wouldn't want a relationship for a long time. And I didn't. But you can't help who you like. I did nothing about it for a long time. We had a good thing going, we enjoyed spending time together, and he was AMAZING in bed. Then he made it clear that he liked me too. So I got drunk one night and flat out asked him if he would consider dating me someday. He told me that he'd rather do it now. 
So I'm married, with a kid and a boyfriend.
It makes me feel a little like a whore sometimes. But he is an incredible person. My in-laws do in fact think I'm a whore (which is totally hypocritical since they offered to find a girl for James long before I met Kerry) and make me worry about what they might say in front of my child.
Anywho....after introducing me to Kerry, things went well between me and the bestie for about 2 weeks. Then she had an epiphany that she didn't like very much. I had a better relationship than she did. So she decided that instead of being adults about this she would play the bitch. Her boyfriend went to training for a week(he's in the Air Force, as is Kerry) so she told me that Kerry couldn't come see me at all while he was gone. Trying to be an understanding friend I said okay, with the exception of Saturday night because it was Halloween weekend and after a month of planning and anticipation I was still going out. So she decided she wasn't since she didn't want to be the third wheel. Well I talked with Kerry and he decided that since it was just going to be us, we could just stay home and watch horror movies instead. I thought about it and said okay because I was getting rather tired of the drunken drama that surrounds the people at my favorite place to hang out. I didn't mind the break.
Well the bestie didn't take to this plan too well. She decided to go out. I told her that was fine. She's her own person. Instead she spent the entire night slamming around the apartment and sending me text messages from her bedroom (which I didn't get anyway since my phone was on the charger in my bedroom). She spent the entire weekend upset with me.
I went back on Sunday so I could spend Halloween with Connor. (He was a puppy, but unfortunately I have no pictures yet.
) Well on Monday she sends me a message saying she's going to Texas for a whole week. I would've had no problem with this except for the fact that I had no key and I was planning on being back on Tuesday. So I asked her to leave me a key somewhere and she refused. I was going to have to wait until she got back. That was unacceptable because I didn't have enough clothes to get me through the week and I had a job interview on Thursday. So I drove all the way back to confront her. She refused to talk to me. So I started removing my things from the apartment. I wasn't going to live with someone who was going to be so childish. She actually threatened to call the cops on me because I was taking my things from the apartment. I told her to try it. (She wussed out ) I told her I was done and to not contact me again. There was no point in acting the way she did and I refuse to be friends with someone who acts like that.
A lot more happened in that time span, but that's the gist of it. I should've known that this would happen when I had friends who wouldn't come to the house because she lived there too.
So now I'm back with my ex and my son. Things get kind of tense with me and James once in a while, but I'm working on it. And with a little luck I'll be out of here soon anyway. I'm spending every weekend with Kerry. We went to Orlando last weekend with one of his buddies and had a blast. (A little drama happened there as well, but it didn't concern us, thank goodness). He's actually taking me to meet his parents over Thanksgiving, so I'm super nervous and extremely excited!
Connor is getting so big! He surprised me tonight by whistling at me. I don't even know where he learned it! (It wasn't from me. I can't whistle. ) He's actually taking all of this really well. I was worried about it for a while but he's taking it in stride. And he likes Kerry. It's really cute. When Kerry drops me off, Connor chats him up while I'm putting my stuff away.
Other than that there hasn't been a whole lot going on. None of our job interviews have panned out but we're not giving up hope yet.
And now.....random pictures!
Oscar wanted in
I am still around. It's just taking forever for me to respond to messages. I still love you guys!
First I must go back to the end of July and explain something that happened then. My husband and I decided that it was time to get a divorce. We haven't been happy with each other in a long time and it was getting to that point that if we weren't mature about it and go ahead and do things civilly we might end up being terrible to each other in the long run. It wasn't anything one of us did. We just sort of fell apart. It was mutual and we are still friends, we just can't live together anymore. We agreed to split custody of Connor and have an open relationship until such time that we could get the papers filed.
Well I explained that my bestie was moving away. After she'd been gone for about 3 weeks, she invited me to move in with her. My in-laws were being terrible because I was spending so much time with her anyway (obviously that means I'm getting drunk constantly and sleeping around with every guy I laid my eyes on
) so I decided to go ahead and go. I explained to her that I was doing this with no car and no current job so I was going to need her to be patient while I settled in and worked everything out. She said that this wouldn't be a problem. Not a week after I moved in she also moved in her boyfriend. It was her apartment so I didn't have a problem with that. I didn't particularly like him (he's a bit of a douche) and he made it clear that he didn't like me at all, but I continued to be civil and just overlook the times when he was down right rude.
Also I was driving back for a couple of days every two weeks to see Connor because we didn't have enough room for him to stay with us and I didn't want to take him away from his dad. Plus all of our family lives right around here. I'd rather Connor have the majority of his family than just his mother.
For a while this arrangement worked splendidly. I was happy and so was everyone else. Then my bestie introduced me to Kerry.
I wasn't looking for a relationship and neither was he. So it was the perfect arrangement. He was sweet and fun (and incredibly cute) and best of all, expected nothing in return from me. We screwed around and on weekends when everyone wanted to go out, he was game (as long as he didn't have to dance a whole lot ). But then something happened. I realized I actually liked this guy. Yes, I realize that it's extremely soon. You'd think after 7 years of being with someone I wouldn't want a relationship for a long time. And I didn't. But you can't help who you like. I did nothing about it for a long time. We had a good thing going, we enjoyed spending time together, and he was AMAZING in bed. Then he made it clear that he liked me too. So I got drunk one night and flat out asked him if he would consider dating me someday. He told me that he'd rather do it now. So I'm married, with a kid and a boyfriend.
It makes me feel a little like a whore sometimes. But he is an incredible person. My in-laws do in fact think I'm a whore (which is totally hypocritical since they offered to find a girl for James long before I met Kerry) and make me worry about what they might say in front of my child. Anywho....after introducing me to Kerry, things went well between me and the bestie for about 2 weeks. Then she had an epiphany that she didn't like very much. I had a better relationship than she did. So she decided that instead of being adults about this she would play the bitch. Her boyfriend went to training for a week(he's in the Air Force, as is Kerry) so she told me that Kerry couldn't come see me at all while he was gone. Trying to be an understanding friend I said okay, with the exception of Saturday night because it was Halloween weekend and after a month of planning and anticipation I was still going out. So she decided she wasn't since she didn't want to be the third wheel. Well I talked with Kerry and he decided that since it was just going to be us, we could just stay home and watch horror movies instead. I thought about it and said okay because I was getting rather tired of the drunken drama that surrounds the people at my favorite place to hang out. I didn't mind the break.
Well the bestie didn't take to this plan too well. She decided to go out. I told her that was fine. She's her own person. Instead she spent the entire night slamming around the apartment and sending me text messages from her bedroom (which I didn't get anyway since my phone was on the charger in my bedroom).
She spent the entire weekend upset with me. I went back on Sunday so I could spend Halloween with Connor. (He was a puppy, but unfortunately I have no pictures yet.
) Well on Monday she sends me a message saying she's going to Texas for a whole week. I would've had no problem with this except for the fact that I had no key and I was planning on being back on Tuesday. So I asked her to leave me a key somewhere and she refused. I was going to have to wait until she got back. That was unacceptable because I didn't have enough clothes to get me through the week and I had a job interview on Thursday. So I drove all the way back to confront her. She refused to talk to me. So I started removing my things from the apartment. I wasn't going to live with someone who was going to be so childish. She actually threatened to call the cops on me because I was taking my things from the apartment. I told her to try it. (She wussed out ) I told her I was done and to not contact me again. There was no point in acting the way she did and I refuse to be friends with someone who acts like that. A lot more happened in that time span, but that's the gist of it. I should've known that this would happen when I had friends who wouldn't come to the house because she lived there too.
So now I'm back with my ex and my son.
Things get kind of tense with me and James once in a while, but I'm working on it. And with a little luck I'll be out of here soon anyway. I'm spending every weekend with Kerry. We went to Orlando last weekend with one of his buddies and had a blast. (A little drama happened there as well, but it didn't concern us, thank goodness). He's actually taking me to meet his parents over Thanksgiving, so I'm super nervous and extremely excited!Connor is getting so big! He surprised me tonight by whistling at me. I don't even know where he learned it! (It wasn't from me. I can't whistle.
) He's actually taking all of this really well. I was worried about it for a while but he's taking it in stride. And he likes Kerry. It's really cute. When Kerry drops me off, Connor chats him up while I'm putting my stuff away.Other than that there hasn't been a whole lot going on. None of our job interviews have panned out but we're not giving up hope yet.
And now.....random pictures!
Oscar wanted in
I am still around. It's just taking forever for me to respond to messages. I still love you guys!
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I think you and James being civil about this is fantastic. It shows Connor who is still very young and very impressionable, that grown ups can be "not together" in fact and get along. This will help him be a better man later on in life. No matter what your "ex" in laws say about you or to Connor about you, just tell him its silly and to just ignore it. Don't make any snide comments in from of him. That will only teach him its OK. But if he sees you being the bigger person, he will learn from you, not from them
Your so called "bestie" yuk. lol. You definetly don't need that drama. You have to much going on.
Kerry sounds wonderful. Your not a whore. I know technically your still married...but that's only a piece of paper if you two have come to terms with not being together anymore. Its a smart choice you two took if you weren't happy with each other. It will never be heaven, living with someone you don't want to anymore. Lol, but for now its the best thing and it will make this better I think.
Your a wonderful Mommy, Your a good friend...and you deserve only the best. Never let anyone make you think otherwise. I miss you darling! I'll talk to you soon.
Ps. Your gorgeous.