Last night at work, I started dancing for a customer & as I leaned in the fucker licked my nipple. I swatted him in the face, yelled "no" & walked away. The managers & the doormen went over to deal w/ it & threw him out. I was in all three managers' sight. One manager (the new one) apologized to me, the GM was busy in a conversation, but the third came over to yell at me about hitting the customer instead of just coming over & getting a doorman. I will first point out that this particular manager has a problem already w/ me already, secondly this customer had already been previously warned for smacking another girls ass earlier (I'm just the lucky girl that happened to get licked-oooo, yay!). I understand that we can't go around beating on the clientele for every whim-but one imagines that the line has to be drawn somewhere. I especially have a problem w/ this particular manager just because he can't seem to follow the rules either when it comes to his own conduct (so what right does he really have to razz me out). I know that our doormen and managers have their hands tied many times about treatment of the clientele now because its coming down from the owner, but at some point an entertainer should be allowed to put her foot down against sexual assault, correct? This is sexual assault to some degree, right? I've seen girls flip out over much lesser & think its ridiculous-but for some us that are getting licked, poked, or really abused by the customers-we should be allowed to do something correct? Especially, since it now seems that the doormen can many times only issue a few warnings, instead of throwing the bastards out on spot. It is amazing how much strip clubs have changed since the time I first started (little over 7 years now)-customers seem to really be getting the upper hand now in an unfair way. I'm gonna talk about this w/ the GM on the next day I work w/ him I think. I just don't know anymore. The manager that yelled at me said-what if the guy had decided to call the cops cuz I slapped him (I know, but it has actually happened in the past w/ other dancers) -I told him that I would bring up sexual assault charges in return. He then replied that that would be my own issue outside of the club. He also said that in my time there that I should know that things could happen since I'm putting myself in this environment. I understand this to a certain extent-but I don't completely agree w/ his reaction towards my reaction or other girls when they do the same thing. Sometimes you can not always stop yourself -some times its just an automatic reaction. 
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That said, perhaps a simple "Please remember you cannot touch me at all", said with a smile at the outset of each private dance, will go a long way toward preventing this - yes, I know you shouldn't have to do that. For all you know, they guy had never been in a club that strict. Mind you, I am not excusing him, because any idiot should know that unless you are told otherwise, "no touching of any kind" is the ASSUMED rule - but there ARE idiots, and this is just a gentle suggestion for avoiding unpleasantness in the future.
And if anyone in management is not fully on board with enforcing the club rules, they should work somewhere else, and you are well within your rights to require management to explain themselves..."Look, I'm not trying to break balls here, but I am tired of feeling like I don't have consistent management support on this issue. What gives? I apparently can't do anything to enforce the rules, so all of you HAVE TOO. Otherwise you leave me in an impossible position - how is that fair?"
Are there enough signs in the club saying "Absolutely NO Contact - We are NOT kidding!"?