And how is everyone today? Finally got the boy rested up enough to function. That was a major achievement. Typical Monday so far: Worked out too hard, went to auditions had lunch blah blah blah. I'm getting tired of bitching about my ex so I'm gonna try to make this the last one. She promised one of her friends who needed "Dad" shots for his commercial agent that he could borrow our boy for his shoot. I was under the impression that he had expressed an interest in it. When I brought it up this morning (the shoot is today) he told me he didn't want to and had told her that.
I don't know... it seems like she has entered some wierd alternate universe since the split. The fact that she seems to have completely disregarded his input is unbelievable to me. This is a human being not a blouse that you can loan to a friend to look good in a publicity shot. I am picking him up in an hour so I'll see if he had a good time or not but I am becoming more and more frustrated with her selfishness. The really galling part is I don't think she feels she is being selfish.
There was a time when she was extremely considerate and caring. There is a question of responsibility here, however. Responsibility to him. Responsibility to me and honestly responsibility to herself. She has continued to ignore all of these.
She hasn't worked in years. She hasn't looked for work since she left (and she can. She has a Masters degree and used to teach college). She lives solely on the money I give her each month (and keeps asking for more). I just don't understand how someone can function in that kind of environment much less grow and mature (her reasons for needing to go off on her own).
I have worked hard to get where I am in life. I have worked hard all of my life (1st job at 15 bussing tables with a work permit). I have tried so hard to maintain a healthy and nonconfrontaional relationship with her for our son's sake. I pay for his school, his clothes his medical expenses... everything. Mostly though, I am there for him when he needs me. I try to make sure he learns about responsibility and is challenged in ways that will help him grow. With her as an example I wonder how much of that is being undone.
She treats him like a toy that is fun to have around until it gets boring and he's starting to recognize that (he's not stupid). After not seeing him for 9 days she had him for 1 and then dumped him on me for the next one so she could go see a show in the evening (I know I bitched about that already). The next morning he told me he wanted to stay with me for the rest of the week. My God how is that a way to feel about your own mother?
Sorry gang I got all worked up and off topic. I'll try to be less pissed off tomorrow.
I don't know... it seems like she has entered some wierd alternate universe since the split. The fact that she seems to have completely disregarded his input is unbelievable to me. This is a human being not a blouse that you can loan to a friend to look good in a publicity shot. I am picking him up in an hour so I'll see if he had a good time or not but I am becoming more and more frustrated with her selfishness. The really galling part is I don't think she feels she is being selfish.
There was a time when she was extremely considerate and caring. There is a question of responsibility here, however. Responsibility to him. Responsibility to me and honestly responsibility to herself. She has continued to ignore all of these.
She hasn't worked in years. She hasn't looked for work since she left (and she can. She has a Masters degree and used to teach college). She lives solely on the money I give her each month (and keeps asking for more). I just don't understand how someone can function in that kind of environment much less grow and mature (her reasons for needing to go off on her own).
I have worked hard to get where I am in life. I have worked hard all of my life (1st job at 15 bussing tables with a work permit). I have tried so hard to maintain a healthy and nonconfrontaional relationship with her for our son's sake. I pay for his school, his clothes his medical expenses... everything. Mostly though, I am there for him when he needs me. I try to make sure he learns about responsibility and is challenged in ways that will help him grow. With her as an example I wonder how much of that is being undone.
She treats him like a toy that is fun to have around until it gets boring and he's starting to recognize that (he's not stupid). After not seeing him for 9 days she had him for 1 and then dumped him on me for the next one so she could go see a show in the evening (I know I bitched about that already). The next morning he told me he wanted to stay with me for the rest of the week. My God how is that a way to feel about your own mother?
Sorry gang I got all worked up and off topic. I'll try to be less pissed off tomorrow.
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