Recently, I've been caught in a couple of situations where I have had to come to the aid of some poor woman being abused by her boyfriend. It's a sad thing to witness and I can't grasp my head around the thought of why men must feel it is necessary to hit a woman. I grew up in an abusive household. I've witnessed my father beat my mom, my sis, and me. I have scars all over to remind me every day of the hell I went through, the fear that my mother had, the emotional issues my sis has, and that I had to be the one to stop my father and my step father from hurting us any longer.
There is no excuse for a "man" to do that. When I became an adult, I had to figure out what a "real man" was. I hard to work hard and make sure I was nothing my father. Now I am a single father, who works hard everyday. I can proudly say that I have never hit a woman in anger. I have never abused my son, I've spanked him, but never did I do it to hard or excessively.
My definition of a true man is a man who works hard to provide, loves his family unconditionally, stays faithful, never hurts them in spite of anger, who isn't afraid to show emotion when needed but stays strong also, and who will protect his family and stay with them through thick and thin. That's what a real man is. I can proudly say, I'm a real man.