Okay, this is where I get all weird and introspective, so you've been warned.
There's an SG group for introverts. It's nice knowing there are other barely sociable people on the site.
Someone posted asking about whether they've been berated for being introverted. It's a new thread, but the consensus so far is yes. Usually it's an extrovert doing it, which I suppose makes sense, since how likely is it that two introverts are going to meet each other, let alone have a discussion.
Which is where I get all weird. I hate socializing, though after being online for about 16 years, SG is the forst place I've actually done any socializing. Before the Internet went public, I used bulletin boards (dial-up mini versions of MySpace). But actual interaction was more of a fluke for me.
I've always avoided chat rooms. Partly due to my social phobias and partly due to the astounding immaturity of most participants. Mostly though, cuz most people bore the hell out of me.
The problem online and in 'real' life is that sometimes there actually is someone I'd like to get to know. Then my poor social skills kick in. I either never pursue it out of fear and ineptitude, or I go overboard, and want to talk to them constantly. If they're also an introvert, that can make things worse. Because when I find someone I like talking to, I talk a lot. (In contrast to the other 99% of the time). But that'll scare them off.
I know I'll always need my space, my quiet, the ability to watch what I want to watch on tv. And I expect them to be the same way. Yeah, I want someone to share all my thoughts, feelings, dreams, with. But I hope I don't natter so much initially that they think I'm going to always have a complusive urge to talk their ear off.
Wish I could replace this on-off switch with a dimmer switch so I could tone things down without shutting down completely.
If you've made it through all this, congrats! If I've made any sense at all, yay me!
There's an SG group for introverts. It's nice knowing there are other barely sociable people on the site.
Someone posted asking about whether they've been berated for being introverted. It's a new thread, but the consensus so far is yes. Usually it's an extrovert doing it, which I suppose makes sense, since how likely is it that two introverts are going to meet each other, let alone have a discussion.
Which is where I get all weird. I hate socializing, though after being online for about 16 years, SG is the forst place I've actually done any socializing. Before the Internet went public, I used bulletin boards (dial-up mini versions of MySpace). But actual interaction was more of a fluke for me.
I've always avoided chat rooms. Partly due to my social phobias and partly due to the astounding immaturity of most participants. Mostly though, cuz most people bore the hell out of me.
The problem online and in 'real' life is that sometimes there actually is someone I'd like to get to know. Then my poor social skills kick in. I either never pursue it out of fear and ineptitude, or I go overboard, and want to talk to them constantly. If they're also an introvert, that can make things worse. Because when I find someone I like talking to, I talk a lot. (In contrast to the other 99% of the time). But that'll scare them off.
I know I'll always need my space, my quiet, the ability to watch what I want to watch on tv. And I expect them to be the same way. Yeah, I want someone to share all my thoughts, feelings, dreams, with. But I hope I don't natter so much initially that they think I'm going to always have a complusive urge to talk their ear off.
Wish I could replace this on-off switch with a dimmer switch so I could tone things down without shutting down completely.
If you've made it through all this, congrats! If I've made any sense at all, yay me!