Online Dating Part 4: Intellect
Yay!!!!! Norm gets to sound like a pompous ass now. Now we get to talk about Intellect. This seems to be covered in the dating sites by asking what level of education I want in my match, but I have been through school and I can tell you, honestly, a degree is not an accurate indication of intelligence. I have met some stupid ass people with college degrees. In fact this wave of educated stupid people have lead to the best quote I have ever heard. "Only someone who went to college could say something that stupid."
So for an accurate level of intelligence we simply need to talk. I have to be able to talk to a person. I have always been a good listener, and I am intelligent. I know how to have a conversation, sometimes I am too good at it (thank you Professor Danielson). And I admit that my inability to cope with stupidity is one of the flaws that I am trying to fix.
But my discontent with my personality aside, I know that most of the time me and my mate will be talking. It would help if she were good at it. I also know that she needs to be able to understand the different kinds of communication. There are conversations that are like tennis matches, you bounce a topic back and forth, processing the other persons information, and sending responses back for consideration. When the ball drops, the conversation is done. But there are also bowling types of conversations. I deliver the topic, subject, and resolution and nothing else is discussed. This is how plain information is delivered. I am hungry, I'm getting food. It is fairly straight forward.
Past relationships have been frustrating because my partner did not agree with the idea that not everything needs discussion. And would ask questions about things that don't need discussion. It was frustrating to say the least.
The other thing that is important to me is that I like to talk about everything. No subject is taboo, and everything can be joked about. I know this has caused problems with people in the past but I just don't care. Most of the problems that exist in this world exist because people refuse to check emotions at the door and actually talk about things (again, thanks Mr. Danielson. CSM is screwed if you ever leave).
Intelligence is very important to me. That is probably why 75% of the people in my life are teachers of some sort. And I am not afraid to admit that I am not the smartest of my friends. A lot of people would hate to admit that. I am sure that one of Steven Hawkins friends is saying yeah Stevei is smart, but I could kick his ass in Jeopardy. I'll tell you right now that my friend John has forgotten more about things than I will ever know. And my other friend Dominic somehow has an envious amount access to knowledge that I had not heard yet. He always knows a couple of hours ahead of me about pop culture things. But I am that friend that is the storehouse of useless information. We all are to a certain extent but I have the thought train to pull the most useless facts out for ironic punctuation or just to beat the other table of drunks at bar trivia.
Above all else, I need someone that can hopefully contribute to that and at the very least appreciate it. I'll see you in a couple of days with part 5: Sexuality.
Yay!!!!! Norm gets to sound like a pompous ass now. Now we get to talk about Intellect. This seems to be covered in the dating sites by asking what level of education I want in my match, but I have been through school and I can tell you, honestly, a degree is not an accurate indication of intelligence. I have met some stupid ass people with college degrees. In fact this wave of educated stupid people have lead to the best quote I have ever heard. "Only someone who went to college could say something that stupid."
So for an accurate level of intelligence we simply need to talk. I have to be able to talk to a person. I have always been a good listener, and I am intelligent. I know how to have a conversation, sometimes I am too good at it (thank you Professor Danielson). And I admit that my inability to cope with stupidity is one of the flaws that I am trying to fix.
But my discontent with my personality aside, I know that most of the time me and my mate will be talking. It would help if she were good at it. I also know that she needs to be able to understand the different kinds of communication. There are conversations that are like tennis matches, you bounce a topic back and forth, processing the other persons information, and sending responses back for consideration. When the ball drops, the conversation is done. But there are also bowling types of conversations. I deliver the topic, subject, and resolution and nothing else is discussed. This is how plain information is delivered. I am hungry, I'm getting food. It is fairly straight forward.
Past relationships have been frustrating because my partner did not agree with the idea that not everything needs discussion. And would ask questions about things that don't need discussion. It was frustrating to say the least.
The other thing that is important to me is that I like to talk about everything. No subject is taboo, and everything can be joked about. I know this has caused problems with people in the past but I just don't care. Most of the problems that exist in this world exist because people refuse to check emotions at the door and actually talk about things (again, thanks Mr. Danielson. CSM is screwed if you ever leave).
Intelligence is very important to me. That is probably why 75% of the people in my life are teachers of some sort. And I am not afraid to admit that I am not the smartest of my friends. A lot of people would hate to admit that. I am sure that one of Steven Hawkins friends is saying yeah Stevei is smart, but I could kick his ass in Jeopardy. I'll tell you right now that my friend John has forgotten more about things than I will ever know. And my other friend Dominic somehow has an envious amount access to knowledge that I had not heard yet. He always knows a couple of hours ahead of me about pop culture things. But I am that friend that is the storehouse of useless information. We all are to a certain extent but I have the thought train to pull the most useless facts out for ironic punctuation or just to beat the other table of drunks at bar trivia.
Above all else, I need someone that can hopefully contribute to that and at the very least appreciate it. I'll see you in a couple of days with part 5: Sexuality.