The wisest thing I've ever heard. what a question. Let's dive in, this actually didn't happen too long ago, but the realization is setting in more and more when I think about it.
A little back story. I've Recently been diagnosed with (more than one) personality disorders. I'm comfortable sharing since I know they don't define me, nor do I wish to hide behind them. (For those wondering, the main 3 are borderline, histrionic personality disorder and OCD). I am still in the process of realizing things I assumed or taken to be normal aren't normal. Think along the lines of having sex with someone if I feel required too instead of actually wanting it. For this I'm undergoing therapy and I'm eager to improve knowing I can get better!
Because of this, there are a lot of scenarios where I want to suppress my feelings/emotions. Saying things like 'I understand why they did that, and it's okay it wasn't fair to them either'. While talking like that my psychiatrist looked at me and said the wisest thing I ever heard. 'I'ts okay to feel.' 'When something happens that makes you mad, it's okay to be mad. When someone hurts you, it's okay to be sad.'
During all that time of wanting to understand where people were coming from, trying to defend their actions, I never once stopped to actually feel what I was feeling. So that was kind of a revelation for me.
I hope this story didn't get too heavy. Please enjoy a happy and a pouty me!
Thank you for reading!
@missy @rambo
