So... my guys' been looking for a new place, has limited time til he has to move out of the place currently shared with his roommate. Seems like he's had some luck. He found an efficency which is ok-ish price wise, or has a friend who he can rent a room (with his own bathroom, also) for less. I say, well, the room makes more sense... plus no lease, no bullshit... we agree... then there's the oh, btw, said friend is a female, is this a problem? Now, it's really not a problem... except... why wasn't it "I could rent a room from my friend so and so" instead of just "i can rent a room from my friend"?
Honestly, I'm not sure there is any difference in those two statements. I told him the truth; I trust him and it doesn't bother me; so long as it's really just a friendship as he said, and stays as such. ... ... but, being female... my brain got to picking apart the conversation... and then I thought... why didn't he tell me it was a female until AFTER I said it sounded good, agreed with his reasons why, and then gave a handful of my own reasons as to why it was better than the other option...? My take is, knowing him, he wanted me to be logical about it first, before I was like "NO!" for whatever reason. (As if owning a vagina is reason to not be worthy of roommatedom...)
But, the truth is, it does make more sense for him to rent the room. It also really doesn't bug me that he's going to be renting from a female friend... (except for the fact that he said "she said my cooking is what won her over ha ha"... but earlier said she wasn't a very close friend. Who the eff is he all cooking for???) So here I am, getting worked up over this when I really shouldn't. If he lived in the area, it wouldn't bother me at all. But, being that he lives 9 hours away... it sucks. A lot.
So, I guess we're even at this point... he dislikes my job, though not to the point where it would ever cause a problem, because men get to see me all dolled up and sexy all the time and he can't, because he's so far away. And now I get to dislike his living arrangement slightly, only because I'm jealous of the fact that this girl gets to hang out with him regularly, eat his amazing cooking, and I can't. *sigh* Thank goodness I'm not one to be crazy jealous... cuz if so... I'd be freaking out hardcore right now. Guess I should go get ready for work...
Honestly, I'm not sure there is any difference in those two statements. I told him the truth; I trust him and it doesn't bother me; so long as it's really just a friendship as he said, and stays as such. ... ... but, being female... my brain got to picking apart the conversation... and then I thought... why didn't he tell me it was a female until AFTER I said it sounded good, agreed with his reasons why, and then gave a handful of my own reasons as to why it was better than the other option...? My take is, knowing him, he wanted me to be logical about it first, before I was like "NO!" for whatever reason. (As if owning a vagina is reason to not be worthy of roommatedom...)
But, the truth is, it does make more sense for him to rent the room. It also really doesn't bug me that he's going to be renting from a female friend... (except for the fact that he said "she said my cooking is what won her over ha ha"... but earlier said she wasn't a very close friend. Who the eff is he all cooking for???) So here I am, getting worked up over this when I really shouldn't. If he lived in the area, it wouldn't bother me at all. But, being that he lives 9 hours away... it sucks. A lot.
So, I guess we're even at this point... he dislikes my job, though not to the point where it would ever cause a problem, because men get to see me all dolled up and sexy all the time and he can't, because he's so far away. And now I get to dislike his living arrangement slightly, only because I'm jealous of the fact that this girl gets to hang out with him regularly, eat his amazing cooking, and I can't. *sigh* Thank goodness I'm not one to be crazy jealous... cuz if so... I'd be freaking out hardcore right now. Guess I should go get ready for work...
indiebuddhist:
Most times, these situations are over-blown in our minds...
nicole:
That's basically what I figured... it's really not even an issue at all... and sitting here now, a day later, it seems even more trivial than it was before. ...