Ok I know I only just made an update, but heres another lol.

I completely forgot to correct myself from a couple of entries back.

I had spoken to Ian on thursday night. We both said we missed each other and he said he was going to phone to talk about things properly and see how I felt about meeting up. He said he'd call the next day. Id already told him Id be going out in the evening Fri and Sat and I knew he'd be working Sat and Sun. So we wouldnt have otherwise been able to talk til Sunday night or after, tho that hadnt been said. He said he would call on Friday.

So friday I didnt go to Hatfield to the gym as I had planned to. I stayed in. I didnt hear from him until I got a text about 6 pm when I was getting ready to go out. He'd been asked to do overtime at work. Fair enough they were going to give him double time.

But he chose 50 for overtime, over the possibility of working things out with his ex girlfriend. That was what our relationship was worth?!?! He couldnt even make the effort to text me to say he was going to work.

Well that was my closure. Sure I still miss him but I have closure. I text him friday night to say Im single and he knows where to find me if he ever wants to ask me out on a date or something, but Im not hanging around for him. He text back I dont really think he understood what I meant

Thanks to everyones advice at The Break Up Club. It really helped. Especially...

"Don't stress yourself out emotionally over this guy. Who quite clearly hasn't reached any level of adulthood when it comes to a relationship with a complex woman. He has some growing up to do and your wasting time after the fact, hoping for passion and attention from a person who's not able to get it together.
He was probably was a bit intimidated by your emotional intensity, but that's his problem. If a guy can't step up to the plate and be there for a girl he's in a relationship with. For you, it's the wrong guy."

That made me smile and cry.

But I laughed when I read a thread on his alternative music society forum. He said he wouldnt get married any time soon because "he was not grown up enough and he'd be too scared". Then a few of the forum people went on to say he'll be like "speedy pete", the dodgy paedo guy in his 50s that hangs out at the university alternative club night still, which is predominantly frequented by 18-21 year olds (except less legendary). "still clutching onto the Alt Music Society!" I liked that bit. Ok now im just being a bitch, which Im not but I had to get it out of my system.

He obviously isnt ready for any level of seriousness in a relationship. So no he's not the guy for me. Friday I text him to say he knows where I am if he's sorted himself out. Although I dont see that happening and as of this weekend....

Im single and happy