I'm sick, AGAIN. Man this is giving me the shits. It must be the weird-ass weather we're getting at the moment, hot one day then cold and rainy the next. I think i might have to take another day off work tomorrow, that's 2 in a week, I feel kinda bad...
Another thing that's really getting to me is i don't know what to do with my boyfriend. I mean I'm really not sure whether I want to stay with him or not.
We've been together around 9 months or so, but I can't see this being a real long-term kind of thing. We have too many differences. And he's very controlling, while I'm very independent, so it's not easy to come to a compromise on things. Basically because he just refuses to compromise, it's his way or nothing.
But I'm afraid that if i break up with him he will do something terrible to himself. He has a history of severe depression and even now his moods are always very up and down - another thing which makes him difficult to be with. I'm always having to watch what i do and say in case i piss him off. I don't want to keep living like that.
If I do break up with him I feel that i'll have to do it when we are at his house, so he doesn't have to drive home from mine and risk crashing his car. But he also has violent tendencies, and although he's never been violent towards me, I'm scared that if i break up with him, he might be.
When he's in a bad mood, he's terrible to be around. But when he's happy, it's great. The thing is, he's in a bad mood far more often.
Help, guys... this has been on my mind for months now. What should i do?
Another thing that's really getting to me is i don't know what to do with my boyfriend. I mean I'm really not sure whether I want to stay with him or not.
We've been together around 9 months or so, but I can't see this being a real long-term kind of thing. We have too many differences. And he's very controlling, while I'm very independent, so it's not easy to come to a compromise on things. Basically because he just refuses to compromise, it's his way or nothing.
But I'm afraid that if i break up with him he will do something terrible to himself. He has a history of severe depression and even now his moods are always very up and down - another thing which makes him difficult to be with. I'm always having to watch what i do and say in case i piss him off. I don't want to keep living like that.
If I do break up with him I feel that i'll have to do it when we are at his house, so he doesn't have to drive home from mine and risk crashing his car. But he also has violent tendencies, and although he's never been violent towards me, I'm scared that if i break up with him, he might be.
When he's in a bad mood, he's terrible to be around. But when he's happy, it's great. The thing is, he's in a bad mood far more often.
Help, guys... this has been on my mind for months now. What should i do?
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Seriously though, if you don't want to be with him then you should leave him. If you are worried about your physical safety then you MUST leave him. You relationship doesn't sound healthy and could get much worse.
You can't worry about what he will do to himself if you are worrying about what he will do to you. And besides, staying with someone so they don't get suicidal is not a reason to stay with someone. It's a reason to try and get them psychiatric help maybe but that's it.
Figuring how to let him down in the right way won't be easy and I won't claim to know exactly how. Perhaps a public place not far from where he lives would be the best option to help calm both of your fears, that's your two personal fears, not his.
Good luck baby.
why are relationships so easy to get into but so hard to get out of? be strong and good luck.