I believe in cutting out the negativity and stress.
I remove something from my life until I can have a healthy relationship with it.
After being freed from my abusive ex, I couldn’t enjoy Stella until maybe 2 years later. I had to let it go, it would put me in a dark spot. As well as tiramisu. He always had that beer with me and dessert at any Italian restaurant we’d go to. I wanted to cut out reminders of him.
When my ex best friend stole my personally designed tattoo with the artist, I never went back to him (artist) again. I cut him out for good because all trust is lost.
I never noticed I held onto items that also bring me these joyless feelings.
Donated my old Ugly Doll collection the same crazy ex gave me. I loved them so much that not all good memories came first.
Recently tossed out a matching outfit that resembles the clothing I was sexually assaulted in a few years back. I haven’t used it, but as I was organizing my closet I spotted it and felt the heartache.
I’ve cut out items, beverages, snacks even places that bring my mind more harm. I’m trying to bring a piece of mind to myself as I feel more negativity in my heart lately.
The last thing I’ve cut, my hair. I’ve never realized how much pressure I had growing it out. Of course I work in the hair industry and there’s pressure to constantly have a new look and style. Must have your “face on” or you can’t really say you’re in the industry.
The past year I’ve allowed my color to fade beautifully, not stressing how fresh it looks. I used to touch up my color every 2 weeks... it was EXHAUSTING. Now it’s every few months. I realized I enjoyed the compliments of my hair length. Why? Why do I need to fish for this compliment? Women look better with longer hair, or your face is too fat for shorter hair, etc. Just chopped my hair and I’m excited that I don’t need as much color and product. Cut out 5 mins in my blow dry routine.
I’m happy.
~Nanette
Also I’m glad I don’t always put “pretty all the time” persona. You need to see the goofy side to my personality.
