n8tvegrl

What to do?

I have a friend who I care about and think highly of but who I can't have in my life right now because it's bad for both of us, our relationships, and the stability of our families. I hate coming to that conclusion but every time we get together it's the same thing each time.

I feel terrible about not being able to be a friend to her right now but our relationship got really toxic a while back and it was ruining my relationship with my man and she was on the verge of divorce as well. We drank too much, smoked too much, lived like we were single gals again and neglected our responsibilities. It didn't help things that we had a "thing" as well and that confused the situation even more.

Now she's mad at me and thinks I'm cold and callous and that I am not a true friend. I don't know what to do because I value my family and know she values hers. Do I hang out with her while I see her still making the same mistakes? Do I give this friendship one more chance or do I wait until we're more settled in our lives?

I keep thinking of the adage: Burn me once shame on you, burn me twice shame on me....