I went to Hot Pink and had a wonderful time. I ran into the vivaciously lovely Rosey and the ultimately adorable Amory. Good times all around--until...
After Hot Pink I went with some good friends to IHOP (yah, fuck that place.) Everything was going well until someone brought up the topic of "Nerds: Were you one in High School and are you still one?"
Two of the guys into a heated (and when I say I mean Kerry .vs. Bush or Atheist .vs. Believer heated) discussion over their nerdness. One of them was disputing the other's nerdiness. He said he took it as a personal that #1 (we shall refer to them as #1 and #2) thought he was a nerd in high school. #2 said that #1 was the coolest guy he knew in high school and that for him to say he is nerd makes #2 feel like less than a nerd. He said it makes him feel like a total loser and outcast.
I've known both of these guys for about eight years and as long as I've known them neither of them has been a nerd. They were both members of a kickass punk band out here and I didn't view either of them as uncool or nerdy.
I was able to let them know that I could name five people who literally had no friends until I met them. These were real nerds. These were guys that would not socialize with anybody because they had such shitty self-esteem and they thought everybody else viewed them as total dorks--which everybody did. But, all it takes for a little spark to occur and people who were once social outcasts become really cool people. They just need to see that they aren't nerds. One of the guys was so socially inept that I had to dress him for his first dance and I had to take him to his high school football game. Now each of these five people have many friends and people who hang with them. I still see them on a regular basis and I live with one of them.
This discussion seriously should have taken place between a convenience store and a movie rental place. It makes great fodder for a comedic skit or slice-of-life comic book.
They asked me if I was a nerd in school. I had to say about things I was. Music, I was band geek and still am. I spend a great majority of my time listening to and playing music. I feel like High Fidelity was written about me. That is my nerdness. I also read comics and even played Dungeons and Dragons when I was in school. I was in Drama Club, Chess Club, Math Club, and Magic Club. But I wasn't a nerd. I had more friends and people that I could associate with than I needed. I still do. But I valued all of those friendships and I still value all of the people that I know and hang with. But I also still read comics and I still bust out the occasional magic trick (especially fire tricks, I'm a pyro underneath the calm exterior.) But I still don't consider myself a nerd.
To make a longer story less long: One of the guys ended up walking out of the IHOP duing our early drunken breakfast because he felt his nerdness was being questioned.
The moral is: do not have discussions about nerdness when alcohol is involved.
And a question: Were you a nerd in high school?
After Hot Pink I went with some good friends to IHOP (yah, fuck that place.) Everything was going well until someone brought up the topic of "Nerds: Were you one in High School and are you still one?"
Two of the guys into a heated (and when I say I mean Kerry .vs. Bush or Atheist .vs. Believer heated) discussion over their nerdness. One of them was disputing the other's nerdiness. He said he took it as a personal that #1 (we shall refer to them as #1 and #2) thought he was a nerd in high school. #2 said that #1 was the coolest guy he knew in high school and that for him to say he is nerd makes #2 feel like less than a nerd. He said it makes him feel like a total loser and outcast.
I've known both of these guys for about eight years and as long as I've known them neither of them has been a nerd. They were both members of a kickass punk band out here and I didn't view either of them as uncool or nerdy.
I was able to let them know that I could name five people who literally had no friends until I met them. These were real nerds. These were guys that would not socialize with anybody because they had such shitty self-esteem and they thought everybody else viewed them as total dorks--which everybody did. But, all it takes for a little spark to occur and people who were once social outcasts become really cool people. They just need to see that they aren't nerds. One of the guys was so socially inept that I had to dress him for his first dance and I had to take him to his high school football game. Now each of these five people have many friends and people who hang with them. I still see them on a regular basis and I live with one of them.
This discussion seriously should have taken place between a convenience store and a movie rental place. It makes great fodder for a comedic skit or slice-of-life comic book.
They asked me if I was a nerd in school. I had to say about things I was. Music, I was band geek and still am. I spend a great majority of my time listening to and playing music. I feel like High Fidelity was written about me. That is my nerdness. I also read comics and even played Dungeons and Dragons when I was in school. I was in Drama Club, Chess Club, Math Club, and Magic Club. But I wasn't a nerd. I had more friends and people that I could associate with than I needed. I still do. But I valued all of those friendships and I still value all of the people that I know and hang with. But I also still read comics and I still bust out the occasional magic trick (especially fire tricks, I'm a pyro underneath the calm exterior.) But I still don't consider myself a nerd.
To make a longer story less long: One of the guys ended up walking out of the IHOP duing our early drunken breakfast because he felt his nerdness was being questioned.
The moral is: do not have discussions about nerdness when alcohol is involved.
And a question: Were you a nerd in high school?
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I wasn't a nerd in highschool. I was a stoner chick, who wore high-heeled leather boots & super tight jeans a lot. I would've worn zip-around pants but my mom wouldn't let me! In my Jr. year I became more generic in my style, after I was arrested for smoking pot across the street from the school!