i am mainly posting this because i want to feel like there is someone out there just for me. i know i am alone. i wish to rectify this and meet someone beautiful (inside and out). thusfar, probability is low. it's interesting ideas presented here. i might add that finding your soul mate also has a degree of the amplitude of personal magnetism. though this may also lead to drawing in the dead "wrong" person (even if you foolishly convince yourself they are "the one"). read on...
Classic Soulmate Theory
There are two types of people in this world, those who believe in soulmates and those who do not. The soulmate believers believe in soulmate theory while people from the other group believe in work-it-out theory. The table below illustrates the difference in beliefs.
Soulmate Theory
- There is one (or very few) right person(s) for me.
- Love is discovered.
- The right person is ideal or close to perfect for me.
- Finding the right person is the most important factor in a successful relationship.
- Passion is of great importance.
- People are difficult to change.
Work-It-Out Theory
- There are many people with whom I can be happy with.
- Love is built over time.
- Person is not expected to be a perfect fit.
- Effort is the most important factor.
- Passion is relatively unimportant.
- People can change.
If a soulmate believer believes he/she is with the right person, he/she is more satisfied with the relationship than a work-it-out believer. Soulmate believers who do not think they are with the right one are less satisfied than work-it-out believers.
Modern Soulmate Theory
1. Modern Soulmate Theory is based on math and probability calculations.
2. It has nothing to do with reincarnation, astrology, or magic.
3. Soulmates are not destined to be with each other.
4. God may have made a soulmate or a few soulmates for you. God may help you find your soulmate or He may not. Evil forces or your own free will may influence you to choose the wrong person.
5. You may have one or millions of soulmates depending on how different you are from the population mean.
6. Statistically, there is at least one person in this world that will bring you true love, a love that will last a lifetime.
7. People spend a lot of time, money, and energy in their search for soulmates.
8. The odds of finding a soulmate are very slim. Only a few people are lucky enough to find their soulmates.
9. Current dating services are inefficient and flawed.
10. People are "forced" to settle for incompatible mates resulting in break ups and divorces.
11. Human and social capital decrease because of relationship problems.
12. One day in the near future, because of technological advances, people will find their soulmate or soulmates very easily.
Do Soulmates Really Exist?
Until now, nobody has presented empirical proof. Yes, there are anecdotal evidence, such as your grandparents who after many years of marriage are still in love with each other. But how many of these couples exist? The evidence presented can be used to convert work-it-out believers to soulmate believers. It also gives everybody hope that there is a realistic chance of finding their soulmates.
Classic Soulmate Theory
There are two types of people in this world, those who believe in soulmates and those who do not. The soulmate believers believe in soulmate theory while people from the other group believe in work-it-out theory. The table below illustrates the difference in beliefs.
Soulmate Theory
- There is one (or very few) right person(s) for me.
- Love is discovered.
- The right person is ideal or close to perfect for me.
- Finding the right person is the most important factor in a successful relationship.
- Passion is of great importance.
- People are difficult to change.
Work-It-Out Theory
- There are many people with whom I can be happy with.
- Love is built over time.
- Person is not expected to be a perfect fit.
- Effort is the most important factor.
- Passion is relatively unimportant.
- People can change.
If a soulmate believer believes he/she is with the right person, he/she is more satisfied with the relationship than a work-it-out believer. Soulmate believers who do not think they are with the right one are less satisfied than work-it-out believers.
Modern Soulmate Theory
1. Modern Soulmate Theory is based on math and probability calculations.
2. It has nothing to do with reincarnation, astrology, or magic.
3. Soulmates are not destined to be with each other.
4. God may have made a soulmate or a few soulmates for you. God may help you find your soulmate or He may not. Evil forces or your own free will may influence you to choose the wrong person.
5. You may have one or millions of soulmates depending on how different you are from the population mean.
6. Statistically, there is at least one person in this world that will bring you true love, a love that will last a lifetime.
7. People spend a lot of time, money, and energy in their search for soulmates.
8. The odds of finding a soulmate are very slim. Only a few people are lucky enough to find their soulmates.
9. Current dating services are inefficient and flawed.
10. People are "forced" to settle for incompatible mates resulting in break ups and divorces.
11. Human and social capital decrease because of relationship problems.
12. One day in the near future, because of technological advances, people will find their soulmate or soulmates very easily.
Do Soulmates Really Exist?
Until now, nobody has presented empirical proof. Yes, there are anecdotal evidence, such as your grandparents who after many years of marriage are still in love with each other. But how many of these couples exist? The evidence presented can be used to convert work-it-out believers to soulmate believers. It also gives everybody hope that there is a realistic chance of finding their soulmates.