Sunday May 23, 2004

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There is something fundamentally wrong with how I deal with people. My lighting guy has basically disappeared without a trace. Two e-mails later and no phone call. The guy that was to operate my computer, I didn't think he was interested so I asked someone else. He gets back to me and says he has booked holidays. After almost 2 wks of not hearing from him I thought I better ask someone else. Now, this is obviously something they are doing. However, I believe in causality. In some way I communicate, I have left too much up to chance, too much to interpret. I need to solve this NOW. I obviously need to stress the importance of time and immeadiacy in certain instances. I need to stress the importance of the event in a calm and strict manner. I need to stress the importance that "I mean business."


Any stories, feedback or recommendations in this are would be MOST helpful.

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On another note, I just found out there is a Taekwondo school in another town nearby. Surprising but interesting. I'm going to check out how much classes cost and when they start. I took it long long ago. It would be nice to find something where I can focus all my energy and exclude everything else for a few hours.

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I also did something that was the final stage of me cleaning house. I started up a new MSN account. Doesn't sound like very much but when you have something like 50 so-called friends on the old one and you're down to 5 on the new one, and that's the primary way of contacting and communicating with others, that's cleaning. I've realized that this year I've grown a whole big bunch and out grown some people who don't necessarily treat others (myself in particular) with a hell of a lot of respect. There are obviously a few people on there I enjoy talking to and if I've mistakenly left you off the list please drop me a message. All my SG people are wecome to be on that list. It's like a shoe that doesn't fit anymore. Why keep wearing it? So my list is a little lonelier and a littler shorter, but it feels a hell of a lot better. Some people might wonder where I am, what I am doing, why I am not on MSN, but really, if you chat to me and keep in touch, you'll be one of those 5 fucking names on the list!

I guess it's one of those times where you just go,"Ok, that's it. Time to start over. Start from scratch."
legionnaire:
I don't think two people flaking out necessarily means that it's your fault. If it were like 15 people then maybe... but it doesn't sound like it. I guess my only suggestion is to find people who you consider to be as professional as possible, since disappearing is a very unprofessional thing to do.

Tae Kwan Do is fun - I studied it for a while when I was in college. It's great exercise.

And sometimes a little spring cleaning can be therapeutic. It's good to be able to overlook flaws in your friends, but if you just don't have anything in common any more or you've outgrown each other then trying to maintain a relationship can sometimes be more pain than it's worth.
sonicjunky:
That's interesting. There could be a number of things going on. My interpersonal skills certainly aren't the greatest, but I book my own work and know how it is on the other end. One thing that I and others I work with always avoid when possible is an overly demanding customer.... are you chasing them away Sisu?? tongue OK don't take that badly. It's all I have to offer without being there. Have you worked with the same guys before? If so was it an enjoyable experience for everyone? If it was then rule that one out. If you've never worked together before then is what you're asking of them beyond what they would normally do? Meaning that the chances of everybody walking away happy are slim? It could also be that you just picked a couple of lazy sods!.... Booked holidays whatever

I always stay away from clutter when booking anything work related by going straight to the dates. Find out if they're available for such and such dates and get them to commit the first time you speak to them. Give them an idea of what you need done, but don't go into details until they have. If they're being slippery pass right away. Find someone else. If they're good than even if you are demanding, they should be able to handle it, but they won't find out until they're committed.,, too late to bail.

I hope that doesn't sound preachy, just offering what I can, and I hope you find someone fast.


cleaning house always feels good afterwards. It's funny I do it with possessions. every year or so I start to feel agitated and chuck everything that I can out. I feel guilty about applying sentimental value to objects that never get used.

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