I know I am certainly not the type of guy women fall in love with at first sight... hell, even my own (soon to be ex-)wife keeps telling me over and over I'm not "her kind of man". And that fuckin' hurts... seriously, it hurts a lot hearing such words from a person you used to love. Thing is, I was raised very well by my parents and tought to have respect for any woman. Yet, how can I respect a woman that shows absolutely none towards me and mocks me at any time she can? Well... as I said, my parents told me to be nice... and so I am nice. It is hard, but it's what I learned. And honestly, there is so much hate all around, so why should I spread more?
But that lead me to the point of "crushes": Why do we have them and why is it so hard to tell someone you like him or her? In the past few months I have told many beautiful women on a german dating site that I would like to meet them or made them a compliment about their look. 90% did not even respond, the rest at least wrote a kind "sorry not interested" or similar. Generally we all have at least one "crush" and it is pretty normal. We see someone we like or think is pretty and our imagination is running wild. 😉 It's a simple process based on biology and evolution. At this point I have to say I was raised in the eighties and quite frankly I'm happy about it. 😋 So, "back in the days", when you had a crush on someone, you tried to talk to this person and either scored with a date, maybe became friends or you were (mostly politely) rejected. But today with all the social media like facebook etc. this has gotten a lot harder. Or for some people a lot easier... Now we can look at so many pictures from people we don't know and/or will never meet. We have such a variety of possibilities to interact with others. And an even wider range of ignoring people. In these days we have all the media to watch and interact.... yet, real interaction is getting less and less. Especially when it comes down to responding to compliments from let's say "weirdos" like myself. 😎 As I mentioned before, on other wesites when I made a compliment or wrote something, there was motly no reaction or I was even blocked. Now, I know I have a special look and I get to hear very often references such as "Hey Jesus!" or I'm compared to guys like Necro Butcher or Luke Harper. The last two are pretty cool for me though as I am also shortly before my debut as a Pro Wrestler. 😊 But it makes me feel as if I woulf not be good enough for any "beautiful" woman. Hearing stuff like "You seem to be a nice guy, but..." makes me really sick. It feels like being unworthy or inferior to others. Of course the media tells everybody how they should look and what they should like, but on the other hand everyone loves a good Cinderella story or a movie about some "ugly" guy getting the pretty girl... only to be crushed down in reality as things like these do not happen in real life. I can't even tell how often I was asked by girls when I'll shave myself or why I don't look "normal". This is so fuckin rude and sometimes it's even pissing me off when you realise the girl is so superficial and yet has nothing to offer from herself. It seems to have gotten normal that girls see themselves as superior and may "demand" how a man should look. Don't get me wrong, sometimes you habe to adapt or change some things to be able to live with someone else. But demanding from a man to be something completely different only because the woman wants somthing else? That is also one point why I'm getting divorced as she wants me to change myself completely in nearly every aspect of my life. I am certainly willing to oblige but not to give myself up. And I can see this behaviour nearly everywhere, especially when you have shows in the medias (no matter if TV or internet...) which tell women they "can and should" demand a man to please all of their wishes. Unfortunately the "ideal" man, according to the media, is something similar to Jason Statham or some guy who has "a look". And here it gets tricky, as not every guy wants to look like Beckham or Ronaldo or DiCaprio. You can not force guys to look like Conor McGregor or similar. On the other hand, you also can not force any womam to look like e.g. Shakira, Beyonce or any supermodel. We sure all have our preferences, no doubt about it, but we should at least try to accept others "as they are". Hell, my wife was 135kg when we married and I never told her she is fat. She had a surgically removed over 90% of her stomach to now be at 75kg. I have never demanded that from her, because I accepted her with every "fault" she had. She never did the same with me, because I wasn't looking like Captain America, at least the body. 😉 You can call me sour or bitter, but the truth is, many women expect a man to be something special or want them to be able to offer them an easy life. But life is not always what you want it to be. And there is a nice saying: A bad women wants a man who has everything. A good one will help him to achieve it. I'm not saying every woman is like that, but as of lately I have only dealt with such women... 😓 And again, I am not blaming anyone for their personal taste or desire, but it makes me sad that there is a "desire for perfection" which makes it pretty tough to get in touch with a crush you have. Because many people (men and women) now habe this urge to find the "perfect match". Well... which can not be, as there is no perfection in life. Everything that is perfect has either evolved over several hundreds of years or has been worked on for many year. Same thing is with people. Nobody is perfect from the start, you always have to work with each other. And I have made the experience, that mostly it's the weird people, the odd looking who have the greatest hearts and carry more love for life inside them than some Barbie dolls. Especially the ladies with tattoos have mostly my trust. 😉
I want to be honest, I love this site! And it might sound weird, but I am truly not here to watch naked women, I really love to see the tattoos! Sure, it's nice to see beautiful ladies but for me the looks and the tattoos are the thing why I am here. Plus, here the interaction between the girls and others is quite stunning and very respectful. At least what I have read and seen. 😉
So, what do you think? Am I wrong? Do I speak truth for someone? Drop me a line or comment. I am curious about your reactions.