I need help!
I don't understand how to deal with these people.
Can someone give me a good answer?
What do I do about people trying to save my soul? When I'm totally not in the mood to deal with Jesus and not in the mood to pick a fight or have my car vandalized in the name of Jesus, what do I say to make people fuck off and leave me alone?
Here is the situation I had today. And I want to start this out by saying, I have natural colored hair right now, it is plain old white people brown with a few slightly lighter blond highlights in it. It is shoulder length and naturally curly. I have no tattoos and only 1 hole in each ear. I wear small diamond and white gold hoops and a small diamond eternity circle necklace and my wedding ring. I was wearing a white with a red green and aqua paisley print Tommy Hilfiger shirt and dark denim Tommy Hilfiger mid calf wide leg capri pants and some black simple sandals and a black Hobo purse. I was driving a plain silver unmarked 2008 BMW 328i loaner car while my car was in getting dealer maintenance.
OK, so now that we have established how insanely boring and average I looked because I know otherwise it would be easy enough to say my look was the problem, I assure everyone, I'm 32, I blend in these days, I don't even have time or energy to bother with bullshit these days.
I was driving through a parking lot and there was an older black lady with some dangly scarf thing standing like she needed to cross. I stopped and motioned for her to cross because I was turning to park. She motioned for me to go so I pointed to the parking spot I was waiting for the cart guy to move the carts and let me into. I parked and got out of the car. Because it was a loaner I stopped for a second to look at it so I would be able to find it again.
That is when it happened, the thing I can't figure out how to deal with.
The woman I had been motioning to walked up to me said to me "Jesus loves you."
I am an agnostic, probably more of an apathetic agnostic at that. I don't know if there is a god and I don't care.
I was not in the mood to argue with the woman, all I wanted was to go buy my lunch and go home.
I replied thank you and was about to walk away when she grabbed me and looked at me expectantly, and I had NO idea what to say. What do you say when someone says this to you? Jesus loves you too? Amen? I honestly really don't know, not being from the South and not having so much the experience with the nutty born agains there are so many of out here, I have no clue what to say.
I looked at her and she began telling me I was going to go to hell and I needed a relationship with Jesus. I told her I refuse to believe people in South America and India and Africa and all of my and her ancestors were really in hell because they had a different religion up until a few hundred years ago or still have different religions. I told her judgment was not for her to make and her own lord said judge not, let he who is without sin cast the first stone. I told her I was comfortable with my own soul and I was sure there was someone else out there in more need of saving than me. She then kept going, I stood there for an uncomfortable 10 minutes listening to her ramble on about Jesus. I let her go, I didn't argue hoping she would shut up or get bored at my lack of response. She did not. She asked me if she could pray for me. I told her I wasn't going to stop her and that she can pray for me all she wants. I then said I was hungry and getting my lunch and I walked away as I should have done 10 minutes prior. I was trying to not be rude to an old lady though.
Assuming I don't want to spend 15 minutes being preached at and told I am going to hell, what do I say? How do you reply to Jesus loves you?
How do I reply to God Bless you?
What do you say to make people go away and leave you alone and not get into a theological discussion?
I don't understand how to deal with these people.
Can someone give me a good answer?
What do I do about people trying to save my soul? When I'm totally not in the mood to deal with Jesus and not in the mood to pick a fight or have my car vandalized in the name of Jesus, what do I say to make people fuck off and leave me alone?
Here is the situation I had today. And I want to start this out by saying, I have natural colored hair right now, it is plain old white people brown with a few slightly lighter blond highlights in it. It is shoulder length and naturally curly. I have no tattoos and only 1 hole in each ear. I wear small diamond and white gold hoops and a small diamond eternity circle necklace and my wedding ring. I was wearing a white with a red green and aqua paisley print Tommy Hilfiger shirt and dark denim Tommy Hilfiger mid calf wide leg capri pants and some black simple sandals and a black Hobo purse. I was driving a plain silver unmarked 2008 BMW 328i loaner car while my car was in getting dealer maintenance.
OK, so now that we have established how insanely boring and average I looked because I know otherwise it would be easy enough to say my look was the problem, I assure everyone, I'm 32, I blend in these days, I don't even have time or energy to bother with bullshit these days.
I was driving through a parking lot and there was an older black lady with some dangly scarf thing standing like she needed to cross. I stopped and motioned for her to cross because I was turning to park. She motioned for me to go so I pointed to the parking spot I was waiting for the cart guy to move the carts and let me into. I parked and got out of the car. Because it was a loaner I stopped for a second to look at it so I would be able to find it again.
That is when it happened, the thing I can't figure out how to deal with.
The woman I had been motioning to walked up to me said to me "Jesus loves you."
I am an agnostic, probably more of an apathetic agnostic at that. I don't know if there is a god and I don't care.
I was not in the mood to argue with the woman, all I wanted was to go buy my lunch and go home.
I replied thank you and was about to walk away when she grabbed me and looked at me expectantly, and I had NO idea what to say. What do you say when someone says this to you? Jesus loves you too? Amen? I honestly really don't know, not being from the South and not having so much the experience with the nutty born agains there are so many of out here, I have no clue what to say.
I looked at her and she began telling me I was going to go to hell and I needed a relationship with Jesus. I told her I refuse to believe people in South America and India and Africa and all of my and her ancestors were really in hell because they had a different religion up until a few hundred years ago or still have different religions. I told her judgment was not for her to make and her own lord said judge not, let he who is without sin cast the first stone. I told her I was comfortable with my own soul and I was sure there was someone else out there in more need of saving than me. She then kept going, I stood there for an uncomfortable 10 minutes listening to her ramble on about Jesus. I let her go, I didn't argue hoping she would shut up or get bored at my lack of response. She did not. She asked me if she could pray for me. I told her I wasn't going to stop her and that she can pray for me all she wants. I then said I was hungry and getting my lunch and I walked away as I should have done 10 minutes prior. I was trying to not be rude to an old lady though.
Assuming I don't want to spend 15 minutes being preached at and told I am going to hell, what do I say? How do you reply to Jesus loves you?
How do I reply to God Bless you?
What do you say to make people go away and leave you alone and not get into a theological discussion?
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I get this stuff too. I tend to just stare at them.WHy? because IF I opened my mouth, I would word vomitt all over them and that gets you nowhere.I too am 33 and have no time for this BS.
I wish I could give you more advice on what to say BUT I am going through thia at work right now.I would love to know how to deal with judgmental people.
Although what Legman said made me chuckle.
I get shit because I have more of a wiccan belief so I get the whole "ooo dont turn me into a frog" when it has NOTHING to do with that at all.
Or if I was at the door, I would call out - "Honey - dinner just arrived"- which usually elicited a quick turn and run away as well.
But I'm not that mean anymore. I finally realized that they mean well - and there's no point in being gratuituosly mean. I finally learned to be tolerant of other's beliefs, and hope that they will be tolerant of mine. But there's no point in actually engaging in conversation over it.
I was raised Catholic. I have other far reaching beliefs - but they are not really in conflict. I feel that if you are to have a relationship with God (in whatever form it may take) - it's a personal relationship and doesn't require the intervention of anyone else to practice or not practice it.....
Now when they say "Jesus Loves You", I simply respond AMEN, Sister(or Brother) and just keep on walking.