I have to add to my list from a prior blog. I think that I just need to elaborate on a few things.
I need to make myself a list of the things that I want in a relationship.....I really do. There are a few things that are a given......LOVE, DESIRE, FRIENDSHIP. But I also think that there are other things that also define your relationship with another person. I know that he will have to be an animal lover-not interspecies erotica, mind you-but care about all kinds of animals. I would like someone that wants to try to have a child. I know that he will have to be able to try and be open to new things. I know that he should be willing to make the same sacrifices that I am willing to make...not that I am asking someone to move for me, but it should be a consideration. I know that I should be his first choice and he should be my first choice.
I want to KNOW if I am the real thing for him, or just the ....MEH, I guess. I want someone to say " I am in love with YOU" and not the "I am in love with you unless ________ ever comes back, and if she does, I will be emotionally involved with her no matter what". And I hope that if the latter is the case, that I would be told.
He should be willing and able to tell me his thoughts, dreams, fantasies.....and I should be able to tell him mine.
He shouldn't lie or hide things from me, nor I from him. The problem is that a little white lie isn't so little. When you lie and hide things from your partner, you assign a higher value to those things than you value your partner. That is devastating when found out and depending on the lie and the frequency of lies, might just be a relationship breaker. All trust is gone.
I know that he should be willing to travel, be willing to go to shows, be willing to go to movies that I want to see. And this all should be reciprocated by ME.
I will have to get on that list. When I am ready for a relationship, I want to be able to check things off!!!
And if I never find that person, I have a back-up plan of 1) being an old cat lady or 2) moving in with Jeff and just be life roomies that have teh secks!
And I STILL am on for number #2. I brought it up today with Jeff!
We giggle about it.
I need to make myself a list of the things that I want in a relationship.....I really do. There are a few things that are a given......LOVE, DESIRE, FRIENDSHIP. But I also think that there are other things that also define your relationship with another person. I know that he will have to be an animal lover-not interspecies erotica, mind you-but care about all kinds of animals. I would like someone that wants to try to have a child. I know that he will have to be able to try and be open to new things. I know that he should be willing to make the same sacrifices that I am willing to make...not that I am asking someone to move for me, but it should be a consideration. I know that I should be his first choice and he should be my first choice.
I want to KNOW if I am the real thing for him, or just the ....MEH, I guess. I want someone to say " I am in love with YOU" and not the "I am in love with you unless ________ ever comes back, and if she does, I will be emotionally involved with her no matter what". And I hope that if the latter is the case, that I would be told.
He should be willing and able to tell me his thoughts, dreams, fantasies.....and I should be able to tell him mine.
He shouldn't lie or hide things from me, nor I from him. The problem is that a little white lie isn't so little. When you lie and hide things from your partner, you assign a higher value to those things than you value your partner. That is devastating when found out and depending on the lie and the frequency of lies, might just be a relationship breaker. All trust is gone.
I know that he should be willing to travel, be willing to go to shows, be willing to go to movies that I want to see. And this all should be reciprocated by ME.
I will have to get on that list. When I am ready for a relationship, I want to be able to check things off!!!
And if I never find that person, I have a back-up plan of 1) being an old cat lady or 2) moving in with Jeff and just be life roomies that have teh secks!
And I STILL am on for number #2. I brought it up today with Jeff!
We giggle about it.