Scary day. Last night my husband got a job with a tour (HUGE fucking deal. It paid well, he had friends on the tour, and it didn't mess with his summerstock schedule). This morning he got a call from the production manager, who decided to hire some buddy of his instead (the PM's, not my husband's).
Reasons why this sucks:
1) My husband had four major people on the tour pulling for him, including the guy who would have been his boss and two people who have worked close to a hundred shows with him. The PM still chose this other guy.
2) This is the third time my husband has been offered the job, only to be dropped at the last minute.
3) My husband called his other employers as soon as he "got" the job, and cancelled his other work calls. Now he has to find work all over again.
4) This job would have covered his health insurance and would have provided enough money for us to get by for the six months after Idaho, when we'll both be unemployed.
This time last night we were over the moon, walking on air, deliriously happy. Elated. Now he's in this self-hating downward spiral that involves lots of drinking and venting in really inappropriate ways. My heart is breaking for him. He's a sweet, sensitive guy who places a lot of his self-worth in the work that he does. He's been rejected in a profound way, and I've never seen him suffer like this before.
Reasons why this sucks:
1) My husband had four major people on the tour pulling for him, including the guy who would have been his boss and two people who have worked close to a hundred shows with him. The PM still chose this other guy.
2) This is the third time my husband has been offered the job, only to be dropped at the last minute.
3) My husband called his other employers as soon as he "got" the job, and cancelled his other work calls. Now he has to find work all over again.
4) This job would have covered his health insurance and would have provided enough money for us to get by for the six months after Idaho, when we'll both be unemployed.
This time last night we were over the moon, walking on air, deliriously happy. Elated. Now he's in this self-hating downward spiral that involves lots of drinking and venting in really inappropriate ways. My heart is breaking for him. He's a sweet, sensitive guy who places a lot of his self-worth in the work that he does. He's been rejected in a profound way, and I've never seen him suffer like this before.
Sorry to hear about your husband getting offered the job and then dropped at the last minute. That really sucks. It shouldn't be legal to offer someone a job and then change your mind and its completely unprofessional for an interviewer to do that. I once had a similar experience. I went to the interview and the interviewer was really friendly and really impressed with my CV and he said that he was going to give me the job but he just had to interview one last candidate. A few days later I hadn't received a phone call to confirm that I had the job so I called them up and was told that the job had been given to someone else. The t*ss*rs had practically offered me the job but then couldn't be bothered to tell me that they'd changed their minds!! I hope your husband is able to bounce back from this and find other work. Has he called up his other employers to tell them that he doesn't have the job after all? Some of them might not yet have filled their vacancies. Good luck to him and you with sorting things out.