I just gave a friend a little relationship advice, and it seems like that's what people are marketing me for recently, so i'm just gonna say what I told him. (okay.. so its not a 'little' relationship advice at all. its kind of alot, but read it and weep)
"You're just going to have to look at this rationally. You have two choices, and you need to choose which one works best for you. You can leave and probably lose a good friend, releasing you from the bonds of commitment, or you can keep her and treat this like a REAL relationship. I probably sound like a broken record at this point in time, but like i've said before. All relationships take a little giving on both ends, and you're suffering from the same disease that plagues most of the worlds men. You have no 'give' once the spark dies. At the beginning of every relationship it seems so great because thats what you're experiencing. Love, Giving, Happiness, and you're working together, but once that new relationship feel goes away, the man isnt willing to give anymore, and you slowly evolve your relationship status back to friend status. It's like chipping away the ground around you while she's trying to hold on, because to her, you're growing distant. That causes tension, stress, and causes arguments in your relationship. It may be hard to accept, but from my point of view its probably better to let her go easily, and hope you retain your friendship.. unfortunately though the way relationship ending works like this. If the guy breaks up with the girl, she hates him and wants nothing to do with him, possibly seeking revenge. But if the girl breaks up with the guy, he's crushed, its hard for him to be around her without being WITH her, and she wants to stay friends. Of course thats breakup framework, and the actual possibilities are endless. If you ever find yourself in the situation of breaking down bonds between you and your other, and however you're doing it, going back to the friend zone.. then that person isn't for you. When you do finally find that person who is right for you, you can't, and i repeat. CAN'T just go with the flow, because you'll end up in the same situation again with someone you don't want to be there with. you have to give! and i've said it once, i'll say it again. ALL RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE GIVING FROM BOTH ENDS. this is called 'making it work'. when you want to make it work, when the spark dies, you keep giving!! sure they may not be new and interesting anymore, but now their yours! its like a new car. you don't start spending less time in it, or just set it to the sidelines when it loses the new car smell! the same applies to a relationship! This is a person you're dealing with, you should treat them with a million times more respect than any car, computer, or house you ever own! Because seriously... whats a relationship if its not two people making each other happy?
"You're just going to have to look at this rationally. You have two choices, and you need to choose which one works best for you. You can leave and probably lose a good friend, releasing you from the bonds of commitment, or you can keep her and treat this like a REAL relationship. I probably sound like a broken record at this point in time, but like i've said before. All relationships take a little giving on both ends, and you're suffering from the same disease that plagues most of the worlds men. You have no 'give' once the spark dies. At the beginning of every relationship it seems so great because thats what you're experiencing. Love, Giving, Happiness, and you're working together, but once that new relationship feel goes away, the man isnt willing to give anymore, and you slowly evolve your relationship status back to friend status. It's like chipping away the ground around you while she's trying to hold on, because to her, you're growing distant. That causes tension, stress, and causes arguments in your relationship. It may be hard to accept, but from my point of view its probably better to let her go easily, and hope you retain your friendship.. unfortunately though the way relationship ending works like this. If the guy breaks up with the girl, she hates him and wants nothing to do with him, possibly seeking revenge. But if the girl breaks up with the guy, he's crushed, its hard for him to be around her without being WITH her, and she wants to stay friends. Of course thats breakup framework, and the actual possibilities are endless. If you ever find yourself in the situation of breaking down bonds between you and your other, and however you're doing it, going back to the friend zone.. then that person isn't for you. When you do finally find that person who is right for you, you can't, and i repeat. CAN'T just go with the flow, because you'll end up in the same situation again with someone you don't want to be there with. you have to give! and i've said it once, i'll say it again. ALL RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE GIVING FROM BOTH ENDS. this is called 'making it work'. when you want to make it work, when the spark dies, you keep giving!! sure they may not be new and interesting anymore, but now their yours! its like a new car. you don't start spending less time in it, or just set it to the sidelines when it loses the new car smell! the same applies to a relationship! This is a person you're dealing with, you should treat them with a million times more respect than any car, computer, or house you ever own! Because seriously... whats a relationship if its not two people making each other happy?