This week's homework was all about "What is your secret recipe for love?".
Of course everyone is going to say the typical things so brace yourself for my super cheesy story lol.
I've spent 7 1/2 long years with this wonderful specimen, and in all my experiences of life i've come to the realization that the secret recipe to love is one giant dose of forgiveness. That's right....FORGIVENESS...bet you weren't expecting that as an answer. But here's why that makes number one on my list.
❤️ NO ONE is perfect❤️, and through out the years together we've made many mistakes (nothing detrimental) but honest mistakes that i've seen many other people would call it quits over. Together we had to learn that if we TRULY care for on another to genuinely FORGIVE (and never be to stubborn to admit fault). And that doesn't just mean saying you accept their apology and bring it up every chance you get, it means to actually let the bad things go and learn to grow from it. And as simple as it is to say its extremely hard to do, we forget often that no matter how much you and your spouse are alike, you both still handle things very differently.
❤️ This brings to the second recipe, COMMUNICATION❤️. A couple that can be open, honest and respectfully talk to each other is a couple that stays together. through the good and bad days being able to have that close person you can freely express your thoughts to helps take the world off your shoulders and allows you both to connect on a deep and meaningful level. When you have communication down pack there's no obstacle you to can't face together.
❤️ To fully love someone is to be completely vulnerable. ❤️ Trust, you have to trust one another entirely. Give your heart to your spouse in trusting 100% they will care for it with there last breath. And no matter how many times it's been broken in the past with people who abused that trust you need to have that faith that the right one would never do such a thing.
❤️ Support! since the dawn of our relationship it's revolved around us supporting each other's goals, hobbies, careers and other passions we come up with. It's because of this man I was able to finish college 4 years ago and it's because of me that he's finishing his final semester now to graduate. To support your spouse it costs nothing but to learn to love what they love. And to be driven to push each other to be a better. Both me and my spouse are in the art field (he loves drawing and painting) and im obviously big on photography. It helps that we both love art and respectively help motivate one another to grow in our fields, I enjoy seeing his growth.
❤️ Keep dating (adventures)❤️, that might sound odd at first but bare with me here lol. Far too often couples stop dating each other (no not breaking up). I'm talking about how you and your lover the first year would often go out together or make time for each other in doing something fun or silly. But somehow when more time passes the casual dates stop and the fun goes with it, then you both spend time talking about how things used to be but never make the effort to do it again. GO OUT!!! Keep that spark alive by going out like you did in the beginning, taking time to do silly stuff like have a nerf battle in the house, or cute things like setting up a couples photoshoot to have as a keep sake and its a great opportunity to plan a fun theme. The whole point is to never lose that initial spark you two have. And to have that "honeymoon phase" last all through out the years you two are together. Life is short, so making any effort to have lasting memories is worth it.
❤️ Appreciate the little things ❤️ this one is important because in the world of social media we often compare our lives to others (even when we don't realize we're doing it). So when it comes to lovers, we see how one person on valentines day will get a dozen roses, a giant teddy bear, traveled to some elegant location and we'll look at our tiny box of chocolates and small gift at home as insignificant. We often look at these moments taking for granted every other sweet gesture our spouse would do all year long. You need to appreciate EVERYTHING, because the fact they do anything at all screams love. And when it really counts, it's the little things that end up mattering most in a relationship. Seeing that one persons beautiful day on social media doesn't always equal to the grand life you live with your spouse EVERYDAY. So appreciate whats in front of you and tell them that as often as possible, hearing those words means a lot.
So in case you missed it, Ingredients:
❤️ 2 cups of Forgiveness
❤️ 2 tablespoons of Communication
❤️ 4 teaspoons of Trust with a dash of vulnerability
❤️ 1 teaspoon of Support
❤️ 1 jar of Adventures
❤️ 3 pinches of Appreciation
❤️ Stir it up and BOOM you have the sweetest love to last a life time.
@MISSY @RAMBO :) also hope everyone enjoyed their valentines day!
