Im not normally one to greatly bemoan the actions of those that I have previously dated, especially since I pretty much have zero grounds to be taking any sort of moral stance when it comes to them. However, I read something my ex posted in her Livejournal about how she finds certain musicians and artists to be so incredibly attractive and arousing. I could really care less about all this, in most cases, but I never felt like I aroused her in over three years of dating. We always had very vanilla sex, and I still feel like I couldnt please a woman, if handed a manual. This was already not the greatest week for my self esteem anyway, and then hearing how Zac Hanson was so much sexier than I was just really left a shitty taste in my mouth. Apparently, Im just not man enough for most of the women in my life.
russo:
Ew. Zac Hanson? I liked him in the 5th grade!
nolan_void:
Don't feel bad. It's taken a lot of dick praise to rebuild my shattered ego after I dated a girl for two years (who was my first) that told me I never satisfied her when we had sex. The way I see it is (drum roll), if they aren't getting off, then it's their fucking fault for not communicating or at least attempting to discover what it is that does get them off. Guys are easy because if it's wet and slippery, then we are pretty much okay, but even if you did have a manual on women you would still be disadvantaged because women are so complex and varied in what they like and what makes them feel good. Maybe this is sexist and generalized, but the point is, it doesn't matter what some chick you used to date says about you. When you still have emotional attachments it can hurt, but she is probably the least credible and most biased source for information on you. From somebody who never has and never will fuck you, take my word for it: you rock, man.