So I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months and my sex drive has tanked. I am 28 years old. She is 23. Her's is in turbo mode. There are nights I lay in bed and tear up when I just don't have the desire to have sex with her. I love her with all my heart. With that being said, before we got together, I was rubbing one out once a day and sometimes twice. When we first started dating my drive was through the roof and we were having sex 2-3 times a day. I was still masturbating too. At some point one of our conversations turned to masturbating and I could tell she was offended with the fact that I was still masturbating so I decided to stop and rely strictly on sex to get me off. Since then we have been having sex maybe once every 6 or 7 days. As a man, this is heartbreaking and as someone that worships my girlfriend, all I want to do is give her pleasure and make her happy. I know I don't have to give her sex to make her happy but if that's what she wants, I want to give it to her.
I have tried everything. I lowered my medications. I have been taking Man Up which has worked great in terms of keeping me hard (haha sometimes I feel like the old man in Road Trip that knocks things off the table with his erection) but I have a problem getting there. I have had my testosterone levels checked and they came back within normal range.
Lately, I have been resorting to trying to masturbate when she isn't here. I feel like I am cheating on her though which kills me. So, I ask, is it possible that more masturbation will lead to a better sex life? And if so, how would you approach this?
I do want to add something though. I feel like I portrayed her to be a sexless prude or sheltered person. She would masturbate once or twice a week before me. She is open to new things sexually and I think if I explained to her the importance of masturbation for my personal sex life, she might understand better.
Thanks for reading guys. It is a sensitive subject that I haven't discussed with anyone and I am lost. I am going to post this in a couple groups in order to get as much feedback as I can.
I have tried everything. I lowered my medications. I have been taking Man Up which has worked great in terms of keeping me hard (haha sometimes I feel like the old man in Road Trip that knocks things off the table with his erection) but I have a problem getting there. I have had my testosterone levels checked and they came back within normal range.
Lately, I have been resorting to trying to masturbate when she isn't here. I feel like I am cheating on her though which kills me. So, I ask, is it possible that more masturbation will lead to a better sex life? And if so, how would you approach this?
I do want to add something though. I feel like I portrayed her to be a sexless prude or sheltered person. She would masturbate once or twice a week before me. She is open to new things sexually and I think if I explained to her the importance of masturbation for my personal sex life, she might understand better.
Thanks for reading guys. It is a sensitive subject that I haven't discussed with anyone and I am lost. I am going to post this in a couple groups in order to get as much feedback as I can.
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b.] I understand the "being offended" thing, from her side, because I've been that girl. It's a really hard thing to get around -- it seems silly, and some people don't care. But if she's the type that cares, it hits HARD. It does feel like cheating, or just a slap in the face. Which leads to ..
c.] I think you most certainly need to talk to her about it, and hopefully if you can be as honest and thorough as you were here .. with her? Hopefully she will trust you. Because in the end, as crazy as it will sound to her, it's -for- her. You gave it up and that was no big deal compared to making her happy, right? So it's not like there's any competition -- she's top priority. But now this is coming between you .. so it needs to be addressed. Hopefully she can alter her perception. With your help.
d.] I most definitely do feel that if you were used to a certain amount of that, previously, and then stopped .. your desire could have dropped off.
Good luck to you. You sound really sweet.