i've been having trouble with this girl at work, where there is constantly friction and tension between us. pretty much she is always rude to me, blunt in answers that i get (even to a simple hello in the morning...i just get grunted at), and never really acknowledges my existence in the office. to an extent it doesn't bother me, but in a working relationship i never see why people have to make things...especially WORK like that.
so...i emailed her yesterday (as it is way to difficult to talk to her and easy to let her approach me) about it. have been waiting and waiting to see if i'd get a response, but nothing. finally this afternoon she has a chat with me, and informs me that her problem with me is from an incident when she first started working with us...where i called her a bitch. there are various other minor issues in there...for example misunderstandings that were not either fault of our own, but i still get blamed...but the main is this incident.
just a tad of background. one day i was talking to a friend who i worked with (same place as me) and in a personal conversation i commented to her that this person in question is a real bitch. she constantly ignores me and is just always rude. i had never seen what i had done to her to deserve this, so, in talking in a personal conversation i expressed my feelings, thinking this was safe. OH HOW I WAS WRONG!
my so called friend ended up going back to this person and telling her exactly what i'd said. oh how nice of her it was. so..for the next few days things got worse until i confronted the person and asked what was wrong, had i done something. she proceeded to tell me if i didn't know what i did she sure isn't going to tell me. we ended up sorta yelling so i got the major shits by then and took it to the supervisor as it was becoming a work issue and making it difficult to work with her. i ended up apologising to her, via email explaining why i had said what i did AFTER i had been getting treated like a piece of shit, and also confronted her and apologised to her face. i have now apologised for this one little word that i called her at least 3 times over the time she started until now.
at the time 2 years ago i did confront my friend and ask her did she say anything as she was the only person i told and she swore black and blue to me that she didn't. if only i was still talking to her to this day she would definately know about how much i dislike her right now. background over.
so basically she is holding a grudge over something that happened 2 YEARS AGO and that i have expressed my deep regret for saying when i really didn't know her that well...and that was said in a personal conversation to a person i thought was a friend.
and by holding this grudge, she has informed me that she does not wish to talk minor chit chit with me...for example...how are you...how was your weekend...etc as she isn't interested in that with me. however much i think this is majorly petty and ridiculous she is entitled to her opinion and, if no friendly kirst she wants, then no friendly kirst she gets. i've tried enough to mend the bridge over 2 years so now it is time to treat her the way she wants to be treated...unfriendly.
of course there are other things that were talked about that have resulted in the rudeness and tension, but minor compared to this grudge she stated she still has after 2 years! but apparently i'm to blame for anything with this person and i've always done wrong by her. so meh...
end of rant!
hope everyone had a better week than i have had at work! at least i know i won't have to put up for it much longer...and BIG fingers crossed i get this job!
laters kirst
so...i emailed her yesterday (as it is way to difficult to talk to her and easy to let her approach me) about it. have been waiting and waiting to see if i'd get a response, but nothing. finally this afternoon she has a chat with me, and informs me that her problem with me is from an incident when she first started working with us...where i called her a bitch. there are various other minor issues in there...for example misunderstandings that were not either fault of our own, but i still get blamed...but the main is this incident.
just a tad of background. one day i was talking to a friend who i worked with (same place as me) and in a personal conversation i commented to her that this person in question is a real bitch. she constantly ignores me and is just always rude. i had never seen what i had done to her to deserve this, so, in talking in a personal conversation i expressed my feelings, thinking this was safe. OH HOW I WAS WRONG!
my so called friend ended up going back to this person and telling her exactly what i'd said. oh how nice of her it was. so..for the next few days things got worse until i confronted the person and asked what was wrong, had i done something. she proceeded to tell me if i didn't know what i did she sure isn't going to tell me. we ended up sorta yelling so i got the major shits by then and took it to the supervisor as it was becoming a work issue and making it difficult to work with her. i ended up apologising to her, via email explaining why i had said what i did AFTER i had been getting treated like a piece of shit, and also confronted her and apologised to her face. i have now apologised for this one little word that i called her at least 3 times over the time she started until now.
at the time 2 years ago i did confront my friend and ask her did she say anything as she was the only person i told and she swore black and blue to me that she didn't. if only i was still talking to her to this day she would definately know about how much i dislike her right now. background over.
so basically she is holding a grudge over something that happened 2 YEARS AGO and that i have expressed my deep regret for saying when i really didn't know her that well...and that was said in a personal conversation to a person i thought was a friend.
and by holding this grudge, she has informed me that she does not wish to talk minor chit chit with me...for example...how are you...how was your weekend...etc as she isn't interested in that with me. however much i think this is majorly petty and ridiculous she is entitled to her opinion and, if no friendly kirst she wants, then no friendly kirst she gets. i've tried enough to mend the bridge over 2 years so now it is time to treat her the way she wants to be treated...unfriendly.
of course there are other things that were talked about that have resulted in the rudeness and tension, but minor compared to this grudge she stated she still has after 2 years! but apparently i'm to blame for anything with this person and i've always done wrong by her. so meh...
end of rant!
hope everyone had a better week than i have had at work! at least i know i won't have to put up for it much longer...and BIG fingers crossed i get this job!
laters kirst
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what a bitch