lilknottygirl

oh, fucking kill me now. apparently, i have time traveled back to 1953 because the aim of all and sundry now that i have a baby is to marry me off to anyone who will have me. i would expect this sort of thing from my parents, who still like to believe that the conception of my daughter was the one and only time i've ever had sex (and even they knew not to bring it up more than once), but not from one half of the birracial gay couple i used to work with at barnes and noble. seriously. is this just because i'm a woman? if i were a single man raising a child on my own would everybody and their brother be trying to set me up with...well, everybody and their brother? if i hear the phrase "i have a really nice guy for you" one more time....i will go on a killing spree. is this a comment on my ability to take care of myself and my baby? or is it just cuz i live in ia, otherwise known as the land that time (and social progress) forgot. grrrrr. grrrrrr. i didn't want to get married before i had my daughter and i don't want it now. not that i'm opposed to or undesirous of the idea of committed, long-term monogamous relationships, but i don't see myself ever legally binding myself to anyone. the way i see it, it's still a bad deal for women. you're better off to have your own money and complete autonomy so if things don't work out you don't have to spend a fortune disentangling yourself from your partner. and you don't end up w/all the kids and not enough money to care for them. i don't know why i'm so disillusioned on this point, my parents have a great marriage and i come from a fabled atomic family, i had a near perfect childhood and i think my parents are great together. i just don't want to be like them.