Why is it that, because I'm getting married soon, everyone assumes that I must be planning to have children soon after? Last time I checked, this was not 1955.
NO, I'm not buying into the guilt trip simply because YOU have kids.
NO, I'm not curious.
NO, my biological clock is not ticking.
NO, I don't think I'll change my mind as soon as I'm married.
NO, I'm not "selfish" for not wanting to have kids.
NO, I've never considered the "joys" and "the unconditional love" it would bring into my life.
You know, to be perfectly honest, I'm just a cold, heartless, unfeeling bitch that could not possibly comprehend those feelings without having children. How could I possibly feel real, true, unconditional love without popping a baby out and turning over my entire life to it, right? Unthinkable! And what's with that look of pity on your face? It's not like I couldn't have kids if I wanted them. You throw the word "childless" at me like it's a god damned curse! "Oh. That's right. You're probably still asleep on a Saturday morning at 8AM because you're childless."
Actually, no. I was awake. I was getting ready to take my sick cat to the vet! Look... There are simply not enough reasons why I think bringing a child into this world is a good idea. The pros most DEFINITELY outweigh the cons. I could care less if there are people that can't get their minds around that. Don't fucking question my reasons, and don't give me that "look" when I say I'm not interested in having kids. Don't change your tone of voice and get into that insipid sing-song baby talk thing when you say "Ohhhhhhhhh, I know you! Youuuuuuu'll change your minnnnnnnnnnnnd".
Are these people fucking dense? If I change my mind, so be it. That's MY option. But as it stands now, NO. I do NOT want kids. And neither does Brian. And fuck you and your issues with that if it's not clear enough.
Dammit.
NO, I'm not buying into the guilt trip simply because YOU have kids.
NO, I'm not curious.
NO, my biological clock is not ticking.
NO, I don't think I'll change my mind as soon as I'm married.
NO, I'm not "selfish" for not wanting to have kids.
NO, I've never considered the "joys" and "the unconditional love" it would bring into my life.
You know, to be perfectly honest, I'm just a cold, heartless, unfeeling bitch that could not possibly comprehend those feelings without having children. How could I possibly feel real, true, unconditional love without popping a baby out and turning over my entire life to it, right? Unthinkable! And what's with that look of pity on your face? It's not like I couldn't have kids if I wanted them. You throw the word "childless" at me like it's a god damned curse! "Oh. That's right. You're probably still asleep on a Saturday morning at 8AM because you're childless."
Actually, no. I was awake. I was getting ready to take my sick cat to the vet! Look... There are simply not enough reasons why I think bringing a child into this world is a good idea. The pros most DEFINITELY outweigh the cons. I could care less if there are people that can't get their minds around that. Don't fucking question my reasons, and don't give me that "look" when I say I'm not interested in having kids. Don't change your tone of voice and get into that insipid sing-song baby talk thing when you say "Ohhhhhhhhh, I know you! Youuuuuuu'll change your minnnnnnnnnnnnd".
Are these people fucking dense? If I change my mind, so be it. That's MY option. But as it stands now, NO. I do NOT want kids. And neither does Brian. And fuck you and your issues with that if it's not clear enough.
Dammit.
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Are we selfish, do we feel empty, are we just lazy or self absorbed? We do not think so. We are nutz over each other and love our life just as it is.
I think that our relatives are actually selfish since they do not seem to care about anything we ever want. They WANT grandchildren, They WANT us to experience the love of having children. They WANT to see THEIR family legacy continued. Fuck all that. Both of us would likely be great parents, but that is not what we want and it our fucking life and decision. I have no problem with anyone that desires children, Mazel Tov! However, we do not want to be looked down upon because we do not.