I have been watching the show sex and the city since the first episode aired in the late 1990's. Out of the four female characters I have been able to identify with two of them. These two characters are Carrie and Samantha.
I identify with Carrie because I sometimes analyze my relationships to death. I have at times driven myself crazy trying to figure out why my relationships don't work. I have never identified with the "Hollywood" take on love and relationships but I have always been able to identify with Carrie's quest for the "Soul Mate".
To me the soul mate doesn't complete you or make you whole. The soul mate is the person you will meet in your life that complements you. The best friend, lover and partner in life that will see who you really are. The one person you would not have to lie to. The person who knows all your faults and embraces you because, those little things make you the person you are.
I identify with the character Samantha because of her attitude. She has no regrets and takes responsibility for her actions. She doesn't make apologies because it is her life. If you don't like it you don't have to be a part of it. She loves her friends because she can count on them and in return her friends can count on her. She is frank and to the point and will tell you like it is with out sugar coating it. There is also the side of her that wants to be loved by someone. When she has fallen in love she has been hurt. In a way her sexual actions are a defense mechanism to shield her self and her deep vulnerability. For her sex is easy and it's the emotional side that scares her to death.
I have had many Samantha moments in my life. I have had sex just for the fun of it with a no strings attached attitude to it. I have been the one to shield my emotions by just having sexual partners that I knew didn't want to know me and to be truthful I didn't want to know them. I just wanted these individuals for that "carnal" reason. I also have fallen for very few people but when I have it hasn't worked. I have been hurt and I have even felt emotionally destroyed.
So, now I am asking myself, "How do I feel right now?" Am I going to drive myself crazy analyzing my relationships to try to figure if the problem was they or I? Am I going to say fuck it I don't care and go on my merry way?
My answer is.."I don't know".
I identify with Carrie because I sometimes analyze my relationships to death. I have at times driven myself crazy trying to figure out why my relationships don't work. I have never identified with the "Hollywood" take on love and relationships but I have always been able to identify with Carrie's quest for the "Soul Mate".
To me the soul mate doesn't complete you or make you whole. The soul mate is the person you will meet in your life that complements you. The best friend, lover and partner in life that will see who you really are. The one person you would not have to lie to. The person who knows all your faults and embraces you because, those little things make you the person you are.
I identify with the character Samantha because of her attitude. She has no regrets and takes responsibility for her actions. She doesn't make apologies because it is her life. If you don't like it you don't have to be a part of it. She loves her friends because she can count on them and in return her friends can count on her. She is frank and to the point and will tell you like it is with out sugar coating it. There is also the side of her that wants to be loved by someone. When she has fallen in love she has been hurt. In a way her sexual actions are a defense mechanism to shield her self and her deep vulnerability. For her sex is easy and it's the emotional side that scares her to death.
I have had many Samantha moments in my life. I have had sex just for the fun of it with a no strings attached attitude to it. I have been the one to shield my emotions by just having sexual partners that I knew didn't want to know me and to be truthful I didn't want to know them. I just wanted these individuals for that "carnal" reason. I also have fallen for very few people but when I have it hasn't worked. I have been hurt and I have even felt emotionally destroyed.
So, now I am asking myself, "How do I feel right now?" Am I going to drive myself crazy analyzing my relationships to try to figure if the problem was they or I? Am I going to say fuck it I don't care and go on my merry way?
My answer is.."I don't know".
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Um... I know what you're trying to say, but...
For the record, I love Samantha. I even loved her when she was in Big Trouble in Little China. The scene at the end when Kurt Russell doesn't bother to kiss her made me stand and cheer. What all that tells you about me and relationships is something that I probably don't want to hear.