Today she suggested that perhaps my problem (with dating, with life, with everything) is that I become too attached to outcomes. She is right. But, how do I NOT do that? I rumniate all day long about such things.
Oh, no, we wouldn't want you to become attached to outcomes. Please try not to become attached to outcomes. But don't get too attached to the outcome of those efforts.
I hope you have better luck with that than I do.