Advice needed!
I'm totally smitten with this dancer I met last night.
Now normally I'm perfectly aware and comfortable with the business transaction going on and allow myself to let it be real for the length of the song only, but this is different... I think.
To those dancers out there, current and past (or even hopeful), would you/have you ever dated a client from work?
Was she just doing her job really, really well or are these hints of something more?
Signals I picked up:
1. Told me her real name.
2. We sat and talked in the booth more than anything else.
3. We had like 1/2 dozen things in common within minutes. (I'm normally a very closed book to people)
4. She refused any extra money beyond the house fee, because she wanted to see me again.
Again, is she just a very good people person doing her job, or was there more there?
I'm totally smitten with this dancer I met last night.
Now normally I'm perfectly aware and comfortable with the business transaction going on and allow myself to let it be real for the length of the song only, but this is different... I think.
To those dancers out there, current and past (or even hopeful), would you/have you ever dated a client from work?
Was she just doing her job really, really well or are these hints of something more?
Signals I picked up:
1. Told me her real name.
2. We sat and talked in the booth more than anything else.
3. We had like 1/2 dozen things in common within minutes. (I'm normally a very closed book to people)
4. She refused any extra money beyond the house fee, because she wanted to see me again.
Again, is she just a very good people person doing her job, or was there more there?
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All those signs are indicative of two possibilities.
1) you're right
2) She thinks if she convinces you that she likes you you're more likely to come back - and often.
I used to dance, both in clubs and at bachelor parties. DO NOT kid yourself that there is anything extra with this girl. She either:
a) is trying to get you back to the club to spend more money on her; regulars are a stripper's lifeline
or b) is a train wreck. No stripper with half a brain dates anyone she meets at a club. It's too dangerous, and ALWAYS against house rules -- she'll get fired if she meets you outside the club. Anyone who's dumb or desperate enough to violate that common-sense rule is not someone you want in your life.
Lots of girls reveal their real name, or what they SAY is their real name. It's a trick to make you feel special, like you've gotten privileged information. I've gotten paid a hundred bucks just to sit and talk with someone for half an hour. Yes, guys like the boobs, but what they really go to the club for is to feel special. "A beautiful girl wants to please ME." If that fantasy is maintained by a lap dance or a conversation or being flattered by refusing a tip, doesn't matter. She has still achieved her goal and made an investment in you hoping for future financial returns.
Please please don't kid yourself into thinking this girl is actually into you. You will get hurt. I've seen it happen.