So a month later into counseling and I would say things are getting better. It's amazing how much of our problems are just because we don't really know how to effectively communicate with one another. Sure we talk, sure we argue but thats where the problem is. When we argue neither of us get anything accomplished because we're not really HEARING each other.
I've learned that she gets what she wants to say off her chest, and I feel like I'm being attacked so I get defensive, and defend WHY I did or didn't do something instead of just hearing what she said, and trying to correct that going forward.
I HOPE that she's learned so far that Men and Women think differently. Men are more problem solvers... if somethings broke we want to fix it. She also holds on to the past, and if she doesn't ever let it go, then anything I screw up, and lets face it I am a guy so I am going to screw up, gets added to what she's still pissed off about sometimes from YEARS before...
I really thought we'd be able to fix our issues in 8 weeks or so and we'd be moving on, but now I'm not so sure. It really feels kinda liberating to put all this down into words, I'm actually surprised. Anyhow.. I gotta get up at 4am so Its bed time y'all.
There are so many beautiful women on this sight, if your just looking at their skin, but the ones that actually take the time to talk to you and get to know you a little bit, and express some concern for you, are the ones that are truly Beautiful People.
I've learned that she gets what she wants to say off her chest, and I feel like I'm being attacked so I get defensive, and defend WHY I did or didn't do something instead of just hearing what she said, and trying to correct that going forward.
I HOPE that she's learned so far that Men and Women think differently. Men are more problem solvers... if somethings broke we want to fix it. She also holds on to the past, and if she doesn't ever let it go, then anything I screw up, and lets face it I am a guy so I am going to screw up, gets added to what she's still pissed off about sometimes from YEARS before...
I really thought we'd be able to fix our issues in 8 weeks or so and we'd be moving on, but now I'm not so sure. It really feels kinda liberating to put all this down into words, I'm actually surprised. Anyhow.. I gotta get up at 4am so Its bed time y'all.
There are so many beautiful women on this sight, if your just looking at their skin, but the ones that actually take the time to talk to you and get to know you a little bit, and express some concern for you, are the ones that are truly Beautiful People.
beckyjane:
That's awesome. Counselling ALWAYS helps!