Wow, so a lot of people have been asking me for an update on how things are right now. Honestly? Things are rough. However, with my family, friends, and most importantly, God; I know I will pull through.
I've come to realize there are virtually two kinds of people in the world, givers and takers. Takers tend to have dominant personalities and they can easily manipulate people. They often manipulate in very subtle ways. Usually, they don't just tell you what to do or what not to do, they hold something over your head and make you feel guilty until you do exactly what they want. The people they manipulate are usually givers. These are the generous souls of the world who are willing to give everything they have just to keep everyone else satisfied.
People constantly think that the givers are the weak ones because they can be manipulated. They are completely wrong. One thing you have to understand is that takers, despite their undeniable ability to control everyone around them, they are weak. Takers, unlike givers, need other people. They can't stand being alone. Takers are usually the people who like to talk about their problems constantly just so people feel sorry for them. The amazing thing is, without someone to feel sorry for them they are swallowed in their own sorrow with no one to comfort them. When takers are alone, they fade away to nothing. They are weak beacuse they constantly need that someone to feed off of.
On the other hand, you have the easily manipulated giver. The type of person who, even if they have only an ounce of energy and happiness left, are willing to sit down and listen to others' problems. They are slowly sucked dry by others and pushed farther and farther down. The difference between a giver's depression and a taker's depression is that givers have an astonishing recovery rate. Where takers just like to wallow in their despair hoping that at some point someone will take notice and take on their burden, givers just say "whatever...it's not worth it" and bounce back. Somehow they have an infinite amount of energy that just recharges itself over and over.
I have always been a giver. It's just programmed into my dna or something. I used to think it was a curse because I was constantly having to bare the burden of carrying around other people's problems on my back. I realized that it was not a curse at all. It was a gift. I could listen to someone, let them purge their problems, relieve them of their problems as I take them as my own, and then realize that the problem is not that big a deal. I had the ability to rid the world of problems. Okay, maybe not the world, but at least relieve the problems of the people around me. A taker can have one of these givers as a friend and just give away all their problems and in return that giver can throw the problem away and *poof* it's gone.
Although I discovered this miraculous gift, I soon discovered the downside. Takers are NEVER satisfied. You could rid them of every problem in the world. You could give them all the money they need, all the things they want, you could give them the universe and they'd still find something wrong with it. "Ugh...this stupid universe you gave me is just not big enough, I'm going to need a bigger one to be happy." Sometimes you just want to say, "SHUT UP AND BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU HAVE!"
So, I was never really the best at getting my point across... But I hate not being appreciated and taken advantage of. No, this note is not directed to anyone particular, this is just something I've always had to deal with my whole life. But what do I do about it despite how uncomfortable it makes me? I sit back and keep my mouth shut, that's all.
I've come to realize there are virtually two kinds of people in the world, givers and takers. Takers tend to have dominant personalities and they can easily manipulate people. They often manipulate in very subtle ways. Usually, they don't just tell you what to do or what not to do, they hold something over your head and make you feel guilty until you do exactly what they want. The people they manipulate are usually givers. These are the generous souls of the world who are willing to give everything they have just to keep everyone else satisfied.
People constantly think that the givers are the weak ones because they can be manipulated. They are completely wrong. One thing you have to understand is that takers, despite their undeniable ability to control everyone around them, they are weak. Takers, unlike givers, need other people. They can't stand being alone. Takers are usually the people who like to talk about their problems constantly just so people feel sorry for them. The amazing thing is, without someone to feel sorry for them they are swallowed in their own sorrow with no one to comfort them. When takers are alone, they fade away to nothing. They are weak beacuse they constantly need that someone to feed off of.
On the other hand, you have the easily manipulated giver. The type of person who, even if they have only an ounce of energy and happiness left, are willing to sit down and listen to others' problems. They are slowly sucked dry by others and pushed farther and farther down. The difference between a giver's depression and a taker's depression is that givers have an astonishing recovery rate. Where takers just like to wallow in their despair hoping that at some point someone will take notice and take on their burden, givers just say "whatever...it's not worth it" and bounce back. Somehow they have an infinite amount of energy that just recharges itself over and over.
I have always been a giver. It's just programmed into my dna or something. I used to think it was a curse because I was constantly having to bare the burden of carrying around other people's problems on my back. I realized that it was not a curse at all. It was a gift. I could listen to someone, let them purge their problems, relieve them of their problems as I take them as my own, and then realize that the problem is not that big a deal. I had the ability to rid the world of problems. Okay, maybe not the world, but at least relieve the problems of the people around me. A taker can have one of these givers as a friend and just give away all their problems and in return that giver can throw the problem away and *poof* it's gone.
Although I discovered this miraculous gift, I soon discovered the downside. Takers are NEVER satisfied. You could rid them of every problem in the world. You could give them all the money they need, all the things they want, you could give them the universe and they'd still find something wrong with it. "Ugh...this stupid universe you gave me is just not big enough, I'm going to need a bigger one to be happy." Sometimes you just want to say, "SHUT UP AND BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU HAVE!"
So, I was never really the best at getting my point across... But I hate not being appreciated and taken advantage of. No, this note is not directed to anyone particular, this is just something I've always had to deal with my whole life. But what do I do about it despite how uncomfortable it makes me? I sit back and keep my mouth shut, that's all.