So talking about my life isn't really the way I roll. It's 5am and I haven't been able to come close to sleep all night though, so it might be about time.
I have a new job. I'm mostly happy about it but the girl training me frustrates me sometimes. I know the best ways for me to learn, but she doesn't care. she'll teach her way and apparently it doens't matter if I know how to do the job when she's done, because if it did, she's actually care about if I understood her. Other than that it's pretty much going swimmingly.
Girlfriend. Oh the girlfriend. This is my first relationhip. It's almost 3 months. I get it, that's not long, but I never had relationships last longer than a night. That makes this kind of a big deal. Lately though, we've been fighting more and hurting each others feelings more. Not intentionally, just....apparently everything I say and do bothers her and vice versa. I'm not aware of it, I'm not trying to. I swear she gets ridiculously sensitive and I just don't understand it.
This became a relationship because really I wanted to spend more than 1 night wih her. We just wanted to be around each other so we did. But now, we'll be sitting, watching a movie or somehing. My legs up on the couch, her legs across mine. Like otnight. My legs fell asleep so I lifted her legs to adjust mine. When I put here's back all I got was a "fine!" and she took her legs away and rolled so her back was to me.
This is a common occurance.
Now, I know women are irrational at times. This is a whole new level though. I'll tell her my leg fell asleep and I was adjusting, but she'll say something to the effect of I'm making excuses to get her off of me then tell me she hates me.
I would stick this out. Maybe it's a phase. Maybe we're both tired and cranky because we both work very long weeks.
Except now theres another girl. I'm not that guy. I wont cheat. This is a girl I've known about 3 years though. We talk on and off but one of us always (unfortunately) has someone else whenever we are in touch. Well we are talking now, and getting along better than ever. she's just....fun and not irrational. I don't cheat and I can be friends with girls without complications.
It's just that now there's this girl that is awesome and fun and beautiful.....and the girl I'm with hasn't been making any sense for 2 weeks and drives me nuts.
Advice?
~Josh
PS - my website will be back in action! give it a read, people seem to like it (god knows how, I must have gotten luccky) http://www.theadblog.blogspot.com
I have a new job. I'm mostly happy about it but the girl training me frustrates me sometimes. I know the best ways for me to learn, but she doesn't care. she'll teach her way and apparently it doens't matter if I know how to do the job when she's done, because if it did, she's actually care about if I understood her. Other than that it's pretty much going swimmingly.
Girlfriend. Oh the girlfriend. This is my first relationhip. It's almost 3 months. I get it, that's not long, but I never had relationships last longer than a night. That makes this kind of a big deal. Lately though, we've been fighting more and hurting each others feelings more. Not intentionally, just....apparently everything I say and do bothers her and vice versa. I'm not aware of it, I'm not trying to. I swear she gets ridiculously sensitive and I just don't understand it.
This became a relationship because really I wanted to spend more than 1 night wih her. We just wanted to be around each other so we did. But now, we'll be sitting, watching a movie or somehing. My legs up on the couch, her legs across mine. Like otnight. My legs fell asleep so I lifted her legs to adjust mine. When I put here's back all I got was a "fine!" and she took her legs away and rolled so her back was to me.
This is a common occurance.
Now, I know women are irrational at times. This is a whole new level though. I'll tell her my leg fell asleep and I was adjusting, but she'll say something to the effect of I'm making excuses to get her off of me then tell me she hates me.
I would stick this out. Maybe it's a phase. Maybe we're both tired and cranky because we both work very long weeks.
Except now theres another girl. I'm not that guy. I wont cheat. This is a girl I've known about 3 years though. We talk on and off but one of us always (unfortunately) has someone else whenever we are in touch. Well we are talking now, and getting along better than ever. she's just....fun and not irrational. I don't cheat and I can be friends with girls without complications.
It's just that now there's this girl that is awesome and fun and beautiful.....and the girl I'm with hasn't been making any sense for 2 weeks and drives me nuts.
Advice?
~Josh
PS - my website will be back in action! give it a read, people seem to like it (god knows how, I must have gotten luccky) http://www.theadblog.blogspot.com
First of all, if you dont think you'd be able to move into relationship with new girl, it's all kind of moot eh? But, if that IS a possibility -
You're really looking at two very separate questions here that only seem to be connected. Are you happy now, and would you be happy with girl number 2. They only seem to be connected because we think about stuff like "More Happy." Anyway, i say talk to your GF. Say exactly what you said here, that you think little conflicts like this are popping up all over the place at the drop of a hat. She'll most likely either think you're nuts and fly off the handle (again) or she'll have observed the same things and you guys can work something out.
Now, if she just straight flies off the handle, you're looking at the likelihood that this isnt gonna fix itself anytime soon and you should be considering your options. If she's open and communicative, then you decide whether your desire for girl 2 is gonna conflict with your ability to appreciate what you have.
Either way, just dont get stuck in a relationship that you're not happy in because you're afraid of change. I've been there. padre.
ALRIGHT - Random fucking advice from some dude in Michigan is officially over.
peace