joenobody

so mother's day has come and gone, and father's day is on its way. the day before mother's day i went and had my hair cut at a salon that was full of Rhode Island Guidas. Total Italian girls, right down to a T. they were all cute in their own way, stylish, loud jewelry and colors all day long. The woman cutting my hair was a mom and she was talking about how she was taking Mothers day off to spend with her kids. Having Sicilian ancestry, I know how important Mother's Day and Father's Day are to most Italian Americans (In Italy, i believe the fathers day is st. joseph's day). That's kind of why I cringed when she asked me what I was doing for Mother's Day.
"... my mom doesn't want to be bothered." that's the only way i could put it without laying my life story onto this poor hairdresser and sounding disrespectful to all mothers- an act that would promptly get me chastised and booted out of the salon halfway through my haircut.

i honestly could only remember one time when my mother wanted to spend mother's day with her kids. i don't even think that lasted more than an hour. my mom didn't officially abandon us, she just made herself scarce to the point where she could escape all responsibilities of parenting short of getting us taken away by the Department of Children and Families. when she was around, everything was all about her. she's still got this "me, me me" attitude to this day. she's a selfish woman who was totally oblivious to her kids.

i didn't even call my mother on mother's day. i called my grandma, and i spent the day with nina. Nina is a good mom. she does alot for her kid and she isn't afraid to be the spoilsport who teaches him discipline too. it just blows me away.

so, after years of my mom treating me like a nuisance when i've tried to do something for her on mothers day, i don't even bother. she does a great job of ignoring her kids at inconvenient times, so i'm not gonna try to make things better with her. i don't wanna be one of those people who lies through their teeth every year and celebrates mothers day out of guilt. then goes back to hating as soon as it's over.

don't even get me started on fathers day.