jewishblues

Dating when you have kinks is an interesting experience because there are multiple opportunities to be disappointed. I've gone a few dates with a girl over the past several weeks, and because I met her in person there was no pre-screening the way you would get with a dating website or an application on a smartphone. (By the way, I'm developing a real hatred for the shortened "app" rather than "application," but it's probably because I'm crazy.) At the end of our date, we kissed. Most people would consider this a good thing, but it filled me with anxiety, because now we're at a point that if I don't start the kink discussion, all other things being equal, we will steadily become more emotionally attached to one another as we spend more time together. It's a little bit like the US government refuse to make reforms to the Social Security system; by kicking the decision down the road, you just make the pain of the actual confrontation over the issue significantly worse.