Been seeing a new girl... and it's been going really well. Last week she came over and we watched a movie and made out for a while. One of the best kissers I've ever had the privilege of kissing. She's aggressive, which is great!
Cut to tonight. She comes over to "watch another movie," and we don't even start it before we're making out. Move to the bed, more making out. I kiss down her neck and onto her chest and quip that her sweater is in my way, and she stops me to talk for a sec. No big deal, it's our first time, I was kind of expecting that.
Then she tells me that she's not very experienced, and this is her first time.
Jace, meet performance issues. Performance issues, meet Jace. You guys are going to be best buddies.
I just couldn't shake it. Even though everything was going GREAT, as soon as the condom went on, it was like... nope. Soft. I'm really into this girl and I think she's gorgeous, but the combination of OUR first time plus it being her first time EVER was just... it fucked with my mojo!
Pretty embarrassing. We finally ended up fucking, but she had to be on top, because it had to be THAT QUICK from her getting me hard with oral. It was like... hard, condom, SIT ON IT. Otherwise I would lose it.
I occasionally have issues with condoms. I haven't used them very much; most of the sex I've had has been in committed relationships, where we didn't use them after a while. The whole intermission to get the condom out, put it on, and then go back to it makes me go soft from time to time. I usually find a way to deal, but tonight was awful. We went through three condoms before we finally ended up fucking, and she got me so close from oral with no in-between that I didn't last but a few minutes inside her.
Bleh. Yay for sex, bleh for... THAT. Whatever THAT was.
I'm pretty sure there will be an encore, so hopefully my headspace will be better for that.
Cut to tonight. She comes over to "watch another movie," and we don't even start it before we're making out. Move to the bed, more making out. I kiss down her neck and onto her chest and quip that her sweater is in my way, and she stops me to talk for a sec. No big deal, it's our first time, I was kind of expecting that.
Then she tells me that she's not very experienced, and this is her first time.
Jace, meet performance issues. Performance issues, meet Jace. You guys are going to be best buddies.
I just couldn't shake it. Even though everything was going GREAT, as soon as the condom went on, it was like... nope. Soft. I'm really into this girl and I think she's gorgeous, but the combination of OUR first time plus it being her first time EVER was just... it fucked with my mojo!
Pretty embarrassing. We finally ended up fucking, but she had to be on top, because it had to be THAT QUICK from her getting me hard with oral. It was like... hard, condom, SIT ON IT. Otherwise I would lose it.
I occasionally have issues with condoms. I haven't used them very much; most of the sex I've had has been in committed relationships, where we didn't use them after a while. The whole intermission to get the condom out, put it on, and then go back to it makes me go soft from time to time. I usually find a way to deal, but tonight was awful. We went through three condoms before we finally ended up fucking, and she got me so close from oral with no in-between that I didn't last but a few minutes inside her.
Bleh. Yay for sex, bleh for... THAT. Whatever THAT was.
I'm pretty sure there will be an encore, so hopefully my headspace will be better for that.
Seriously... it's not as big a deal as you might think it is. I know it's a big ego crusher for guys to not be able to stay hard, but believe it or not, girls (decent ones, at least) are going to be understanding