Saturday Jan 14, 2012

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Oh boy. Things are moving reeeeeeeeeeeeeally fast.

She admitted that she had a crush on me prior to this. We had rubbed shoulders at PAX a few times and I had asked to see her tattoo once at a party (I was shy and ran away after she showed me, because she's fucking gorgeous and I got scared).

She's amazing, she really is. We have an incredible amount of stuff in common. She's my age, my body type, my personality type. We're both huge nerds, we both volunteer for PAX, we're both totally kinky in bed, we're both huge sweethearts at our core. She's really everything I'm looking for in a person...

She lives in Boston, though.

She's talking about flying out here in a few weeks for a visit, then I'd probably fly out to Boston sometime in February or March. PAX East is in April, so we'd see each other then. And she finishes up grad school in May. She's already talking about moving out here.

In her defense, she had her sights set on Seattle. So San Francisco isn't a huge change. And there are lots of opportunities for her here (she has a M.A. in Anthropology).

Still, though. Moving awfully fast for only being acquaintances prior to this, and only talking to each other for like... two weeks. We even dropped the "L" word today. But everything in me says it's the right thing to do. It FEELS right.

Part of me thinks maybe this is my "internal clock" asserting itself. I'm 26, almost 27. Single. I have a great job; a career, not just a job; and I have amazing friends. The ONLY thing missing in my life was a girl. And now this girl comes along, and it just seems so perfect... I think I'm leaping at opportunities I would have considered insane a few years ago.

Still though...

Yikes.
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strider57:
Where to start? Okay, with regard to your "internal clock," you're 26, which I realize might seem old to you, but is in reality incredibly young!! Trust me on this, there is no hurry to be looking for the "one." In fact, if you're looking chances are very good you'll find, just for the sake of finding. Although it's basic human nature to always focus on the positives when you meet someone you see as a potential mate, the smart money bet is to step back and also take a hard look for red flags. One red flag that jumps out at me is that she has a Masters in Anthropology, which means she has the training to understand what makes you tick, a lot better than you do, which leaves you vulnerable to manipulation. AND don't kid yourself, no matter how perfect and sweet she seems, women are manipulators, it's a trait that's hardwired into their genetic makeup. I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue a potential relationship with this woman, just be realistic about it. You've known her a few weeks and you're already dropping the "L" word? COME ON, you don't need me to tell you that's CRAZY, you already know, which is why you're openly questioning your feelings in this blog. Above all, you must always be true to yourself, which means being completely honest with yourself. You're a 26 year old gamer, which means you're already most probably a bit stunted with regard to your maturity level, and you're an Obama supporter, which means you have a penchant for making bad decisions. Right now what you're feeling is not love, it's infatuation. You're crushing on someone you hardly know and ever ounce of logic you possess is screaming at you to pull your head out of your ass and start thinking straight. Maybe she is the "one," but if you don't approach this thing with your shit wrapped a lot tighter than it is right now, you'll screw it up for sure. You're coming off as NEEDY, and let me tell you women HATE needy!! What women want is what they can not have, another trait of basic human nature. You want this woman to be in your life, wait to see how much she wants the same thing. Challenge her, make her come to you.
skullgrid:
yeah i agree, don't question it too much. some people might say dearambellina and i moved quickly on our relationship as well, and in some ways maybe we did, but ya know what? it's still going strong, and our feelings for each other haven't waned, they've only intensified. when it's right, it's right.

so roll with it. and if it's not meant to be, that fact will reveal itself in due course.

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