my boyfriend has this problem (among others, but hey, let's talk about this one):
he doesn't fucking cum.
ok, he does, but it either takes a really long time or it just doesn't happen sometimes because we both give up too soon.
last night, he told me that he almost came twice but held out because i hadn't gotten off yet. while 2 months ago, that would've made me very happy, i now get frustrated because clearly, the tables have turned: since guys could never make me cum, sex for me would always end up with the guy blowing his load while i scowled in contempt - now i'm the one desperately trying (although i must admit, a lot of them weren't too desperate, although some really did struggle) to get him off to no avail, while i can now cum quite easily from his touch. needless to say, it pissed me off when he told me that he held out to get me off... i mean, that means that there's a whole lot more work on both ends (and let me tell you, trying to get him off can be like a full-body cardio werkout for a more extensive period of time than i'm used to, so i get tired as hell putting in all the work i do... he sees it too and tells me to stop for a break periodically) whereas if he'd have just let himself get off those first couple times, he would've been taken care of, then me next - and like i said, with him, it's easy for me.
he also tells me that working in the porn industry, he numbs out and shuts down sexually during the shoots because he just wants to come home and fuck me. while that's cute and all - fucking adorable - it becomes a bit of a problem when he can't crank the cum faucet back on.
i'm lead to believe that i'm just not doing something right.. but he argues with me whenever i present the idea. and he's quite vocal when i'm at work... so i'm just confused. when i ask him to direct me, he doesn't know what to tell me.
he says that the condoms pose a problem and numb his dick out, but while i'm willing to change my sexual behavior to accomodate him, that's one position that i refuse to shift.
GR.
any ideas? HELP ME!@#!
he doesn't fucking cum.
ok, he does, but it either takes a really long time or it just doesn't happen sometimes because we both give up too soon.
last night, he told me that he almost came twice but held out because i hadn't gotten off yet. while 2 months ago, that would've made me very happy, i now get frustrated because clearly, the tables have turned: since guys could never make me cum, sex for me would always end up with the guy blowing his load while i scowled in contempt - now i'm the one desperately trying (although i must admit, a lot of them weren't too desperate, although some really did struggle) to get him off to no avail, while i can now cum quite easily from his touch. needless to say, it pissed me off when he told me that he held out to get me off... i mean, that means that there's a whole lot more work on both ends (and let me tell you, trying to get him off can be like a full-body cardio werkout for a more extensive period of time than i'm used to, so i get tired as hell putting in all the work i do... he sees it too and tells me to stop for a break periodically) whereas if he'd have just let himself get off those first couple times, he would've been taken care of, then me next - and like i said, with him, it's easy for me.
he also tells me that working in the porn industry, he numbs out and shuts down sexually during the shoots because he just wants to come home and fuck me. while that's cute and all - fucking adorable - it becomes a bit of a problem when he can't crank the cum faucet back on.
i'm lead to believe that i'm just not doing something right.. but he argues with me whenever i present the idea. and he's quite vocal when i'm at work... so i'm just confused. when i ask him to direct me, he doesn't know what to tell me.
he says that the condoms pose a problem and numb his dick out, but while i'm willing to change my sexual behavior to accomodate him, that's one position that i refuse to shift.
GR.
any ideas? HELP ME!@#!
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massaging the colon could be a little difficult..
then again, i don't know if he'd be down for that.
ummm, ... lmao
just in case
might work for him too!
and some guys just don't get off as easily as the rest of us. sad, but true.