I got stood up today. Stood up by my ex roommate. She's been pretty pissed at me lately because I don't invite her places (I guess) and I never call. So I'd made a coffee date with her to sit down and talk about the state of our friendship. Namely, that it doesn't exist anymore.
So I show up, and sit there, going over in my head the things I want to say vs. the things I should say. I waited 15 minutes before I sent her a text.
"Are you standing me up? - Amy"
"Yes. taking nate and b to airport... in gulfport... gonna have to raincheck - C"
For those of you who don't know, cancelling plans last minute (especially becuase you made plans with other people!!!) is a pretty quick way to piss me off. But she knows that. Whether she did it on purpose or just forgot, she didn't say. Not even an "I'm sorry." And one of the main reasons we're not friends anymore is because of "nate and b." So, I rest my case.
Of course, mylittlepony... I mean, mysweetisrael asked me why it has to be personal. I am trying to focus on that. It's not all personal. There are logical, dispassionate reasons too. We don't work together anymore. We don't live together anymore. We don't have many (if any) of the same friends anymore. But, she still complains when I don't call her, or invite her when I go out with my friends. It's hard to be indifferent to a situation when the other involved is poking at your emotions with a stick.
It is personal. And it isn't. Sometimes things are just fucked up. I'd like to say it's no one's fault, but she made those choices. It's ironic now that she's the only one complaining.
So I show up, and sit there, going over in my head the things I want to say vs. the things I should say. I waited 15 minutes before I sent her a text.
"Are you standing me up? - Amy"
"Yes. taking nate and b to airport... in gulfport... gonna have to raincheck - C"
For those of you who don't know, cancelling plans last minute (especially becuase you made plans with other people!!!) is a pretty quick way to piss me off. But she knows that. Whether she did it on purpose or just forgot, she didn't say. Not even an "I'm sorry." And one of the main reasons we're not friends anymore is because of "nate and b." So, I rest my case.
Of course, mylittlepony... I mean, mysweetisrael asked me why it has to be personal. I am trying to focus on that. It's not all personal. There are logical, dispassionate reasons too. We don't work together anymore. We don't live together anymore. We don't have many (if any) of the same friends anymore. But, she still complains when I don't call her, or invite her when I go out with my friends. It's hard to be indifferent to a situation when the other involved is poking at your emotions with a stick.
It is personal. And it isn't. Sometimes things are just fucked up. I'd like to say it's no one's fault, but she made those choices. It's ironic now that she's the only one complaining.
Sorry that she blew you off. I know how it feels.
The thing that I try to remember is:
Yes, we did have plans. We had them first, and they blew me off.
That makes it kosher for you to not listen to their complaints. because, hey, you did have plans to hang out. If she's all hot and bothered about seeing you, then she should have kept them.
We need to get together for coffee.