my bio-father turned 65 yesterday. I use the term "bio-father" because he left when I was an infant (9 1/2 months old) and didn't come back into my life (from what I remember) until I was in 3rd grade really. I guess he used to visit before, but I don't remember. our life was very difficult for many years, and to this day I still wonder what a true father is like.
but that's besides the point. he told me how my step-mother "saved me" from a bullet. someone she works with was talking with her and she talked about me. said how I was 40 and single. this co-worker goes "Oh, my mom is single and she's 42....and a grandma." my step-mother asked "what makes you think he wants to date your mom?"
and the question is, having been single basically for 10+ years, and told by many one of the reasons why I'm single is because I've been single so long. I've had very few relationships in my life (about 3) which have lasted no more than 8 months. and I've gone a long time now for multiple reasons (worked in Res Life, then went to Grad School, followed by working part-time and then in CPS.....and I didn't want to start a relationship until I had a career started first). so now I'm in the quandary of not being in a relationship and being told I won't get into a relationship until I'm in one. what a bummer.
and then add to the mix I'm a strong (almost pure) introvert who hates bars and drinking....so where does someone in my situation find someone who is interested in dealing with someone who's been through a lot but has lots to offer? such is my quandary in so many ways. what to do and where to go....or should I just accept my fate and give up on any hopes of dating?
questions questions....suggestions anyone?