hannelore

What Shiz said.

Plus, let me add, it's harder to gain respect from a man when you're right away and up front just opening your legs for him. A sure bet in finding a guy who truly cares about you is to wait until marriage. If you don't want to wait until marriage you're going to have to use your instinct, gut, common sense to tell you whether or not he's a keeper. Sometimes that's difficult to figure out....for many reasons.

Hang in there. There's more to you than just what's between your legs.

You are far from repulsive hon. You deserve better then that, trust me it's his loss all the way. @};- I know it hurts now but there's def someone out there for you, someone you deserve and that'll treat you the way you should be treated.

You might never understand and the lack of understanding between you is showing that to split might simply be the right decision..

A lie goes against truth but sometimes the shape of truth is just a matter of perception. It might all look different once the view is no longer screwed by pain.
I am only guessing, lacking Details but anyway healing is now the main Task. Do not linger in searching momnets of pain for a reason you might not beable to see right now.

Wow, a very fascinating blog. That's fantastic you've found someone to share your life and fantasies with. Glad you had such a great weekend, here's to many many more to come. @};-

But he doesn't love or respect you enough to be honest with you,
To be faithful to you.
What if he contracts something?

I'm sorry hon, but no. He could be texting and calling other girls telling them the same shit.

It sucks being alone. And every relationship is unique. He shouldn't be hiding things from you though, but it sounds like you know what you want and are willing to accept things as they are. You should def talk to him about, and about rules and guidelines if for no other reason then your own health and safety. Good luck, be happy. @};-

You really are a gifted writer, as for the rest, you already know.....

here's my thoughts. the phone lock thing means nothing. I keep my phone locked cause I don't want people fucking with it. the okcupid thing? I'll give it a pass only if you guys haven't been together long and he hasn't made an effort to completely delete it yet. maybe he's scared things might not work out right away or something. the localsin thing? complete crap. especially if he had the app on his phone. since he already mentioned being paranoid about people messing with it. and if the account was fake, im sure his buddies would have filled it with crap info and lies for a laugh. not legit info. so in my eyes. he's being shady.

Congrats! On both finding someone you connect with so completely and the mind blowing, soul searing sex that entails.

No. I'd have to be some kind of moron to cheat on my wife.

But it can depend on the opportunity. If, for instance, your tired, and emotionally close to a woman, it's late, you're alone together, and out of the blue she starts touching your cock through your pants or grinding against you, it'd be really damn difficult to put a stop to where things are going, and I doubt there are many who could. Worse still if, in addition to all that, you're "going through a rough spot".

So, maybe there's "the right circumstance" for every man that could result in cheating, I don't know. But part of guarding against that sort of shit is guarding against those opportunities, too. If, for example, I found myself alone late at night with a woman I liked in some way, well, damn, I'm probably not where I should be in the first place.

My wife and I have talked extensively about this sort of thing, though, and we're both agreed: cheating would be an issue, but one we'd get over; much worse is all the lying and deception that tends to go with it.

The best relationships are the ones that are 100% honest (but loving honesty, not like the "brutal honesty" from Jerry McGuire). Not everyone can handle that - Sara and I tell each other about our crushes, and sexual impulses, and some people are just way too fucking jealous for that shit. But we both know we're safe with each other, and that impulses and urges are just that. But it's actually a big part of why we feel safe with each other - because we know nobody's lying or playing games.

any person CAN cheat. there's no magic force stopping anyone except themselves.

We told each other we loved each other after about a month

I say love all the time without it meaning "love"

Is this a good thing?

Ew, the Australian can suck it then

it looks great on you

Looks good from what I can see! Glad they are healing well, enjoy 'em!

you are brave

I know it is painful but the view just gets me playful!

Ouch...

Awesome! I like the way they clink on my teeth...