Anyone want to make a donation to the fund I'm starting in order to raise money for a mental institution for all my ex's???
... yes, all three of my ex's are definitely in need of some mental help.
Ex numero 1: Jess
Mental/etc problems: Codependent. Pothead (I have no problem w/ people who smoke, but she's addicted and it seems to control her life.) Being with someone else is the only way for her to ever be happy (she quit college, doesn't really care what she does with her life, as long as she has someone else to spoil... yet she's still incredibly selfish with what she wants in the relationship.)
The codependancy factor: She feels she is nothing without someone to love.
The goods: Loyal. Caring. Beautiful. Talented. Loving. When you're dating her you do feel special. She treats you like a princess.
Recent contacts: She called me at 4am the other day because she had just broken up w/ her recent gf. Her newest ex had told her that she "loved her but was not in love with her." So she got drunk and called me... she has also called a few times when she felt the need to complain that her gf would not go down on her or even "kiss her back" even though she repeatedly did things to please her.
Why we broke up: I moved away to go to school... I didn't feel we were ever on the same wavelength-- we dated out of convience and when it no longer was convienent I felt like the best thing for both of us was to call it quits.
Ex numero 2: Jameela
Mental Illness- codependant and insecure.
The codependancy factor: She wants someone to love her... to take care of her... to hold her and to always be there for her.
The goods: She's intelligent.. she's passionate... her innocence and willingness to take risks (unknowingly) is somewhat refreshing.
recent contacts: -- we broke up last August. She just called me tonight... we talked for a while... she was a bit drunk and depressed. Out of the blue, she asked me if I ever liked her. When I told her yes and explained that she's a great person and very hot... but that we are just so different that the relationship between us couldn't work out-- she asked me if she could come over and sleep next to me tonight. She said she didn't want to "do" anything.. she just wanted someone to sleep next to. I said no because I didn't trust that that was all that was going to happen and said goodbye after a long period of awkward silences.
Why we broke up: She's takes life way too seriously... and I think life is a joke.
ex numero 3: Chris.
mental illness: self-absorbed, unable to see faults in self, codependent.
The codependancy factor: His family is a little fucked up. He still lives at home (which is understandable financially)... but he is 24... and his older brother is 28... and they both still live at home. His mother is very emotionally draining on him... he's very-much-so a mamma's boy.. he'd never leave her. He wants to date someone who is like his mother... someone who literally NEEDS him. -- Uhh... sorry... I couldn't do that.
The goods: Well, for one, I actually loved him. He was very attractive and passionate about life. He was so wordly... he wasn't afraid to take risks... and he took them knowing what the consequences might be. He did a lot of stupid things in his life... but he was still alive at 24... and he had a lot of stories to tell because of this willingness to do these stupid things. I admired him as much as I loved him.
recent contacts: There hasn't been any contact after I broke up with him through aim a few weeks ago. That conversation basically lead to him saying that he doesn't want me to "change" but that he... does want me to change-- he thinks that the person he dates should dress up to "impress" him occasionally. When he asked me "why are you making me break up with you?" I decided that I couldn't handle the relationship anymore... and i said goodbye.
Why we broke up: see "the codependancy factor."
Damn it... aren't there any sane people in this world? I think the problem is that I'm too insane for any of the sane people to want to date.. yet I can't deal with those of my kind.
Do you think you're sane?
I'm not sane.
...
Me.
the mental illness: feels like the only way to be worth anything is by helping people become comfortable in their own skin. Codependant.
The codependancy factor: is drawn to people who seem secure on the outside by actually are incredibly insecure... because she thinks that she has the ability to be the support they need to find themselves. She believes that although she can certainly help people on the way to their happiness, she is not the person who can ever be with someone when they actually reach this stage of ultimate life fullfillment.
The goods: intelligent, observant, creative, fun, silly, good for a laugh, good listener, etc.
Recent contacts: uhh... N/A.
why we broke up: We didn't. I tried.. but I couldn't break up with myself. It just doesn't work.
...
"life is a hiccup."
... yes, all three of my ex's are definitely in need of some mental help.
Ex numero 1: Jess
Mental/etc problems: Codependent. Pothead (I have no problem w/ people who smoke, but she's addicted and it seems to control her life.) Being with someone else is the only way for her to ever be happy (she quit college, doesn't really care what she does with her life, as long as she has someone else to spoil... yet she's still incredibly selfish with what she wants in the relationship.)
The codependancy factor: She feels she is nothing without someone to love.
The goods: Loyal. Caring. Beautiful. Talented. Loving. When you're dating her you do feel special. She treats you like a princess.
Recent contacts: She called me at 4am the other day because she had just broken up w/ her recent gf. Her newest ex had told her that she "loved her but was not in love with her." So she got drunk and called me... she has also called a few times when she felt the need to complain that her gf would not go down on her or even "kiss her back" even though she repeatedly did things to please her.
Why we broke up: I moved away to go to school... I didn't feel we were ever on the same wavelength-- we dated out of convience and when it no longer was convienent I felt like the best thing for both of us was to call it quits.
Ex numero 2: Jameela
Mental Illness- codependant and insecure.
The codependancy factor: She wants someone to love her... to take care of her... to hold her and to always be there for her.
The goods: She's intelligent.. she's passionate... her innocence and willingness to take risks (unknowingly) is somewhat refreshing.
recent contacts: -- we broke up last August. She just called me tonight... we talked for a while... she was a bit drunk and depressed. Out of the blue, she asked me if I ever liked her. When I told her yes and explained that she's a great person and very hot... but that we are just so different that the relationship between us couldn't work out-- she asked me if she could come over and sleep next to me tonight. She said she didn't want to "do" anything.. she just wanted someone to sleep next to. I said no because I didn't trust that that was all that was going to happen and said goodbye after a long period of awkward silences.
Why we broke up: She's takes life way too seriously... and I think life is a joke.
ex numero 3: Chris.
mental illness: self-absorbed, unable to see faults in self, codependent.
The codependancy factor: His family is a little fucked up. He still lives at home (which is understandable financially)... but he is 24... and his older brother is 28... and they both still live at home. His mother is very emotionally draining on him... he's very-much-so a mamma's boy.. he'd never leave her. He wants to date someone who is like his mother... someone who literally NEEDS him. -- Uhh... sorry... I couldn't do that.
The goods: Well, for one, I actually loved him. He was very attractive and passionate about life. He was so wordly... he wasn't afraid to take risks... and he took them knowing what the consequences might be. He did a lot of stupid things in his life... but he was still alive at 24... and he had a lot of stories to tell because of this willingness to do these stupid things. I admired him as much as I loved him.
recent contacts: There hasn't been any contact after I broke up with him through aim a few weeks ago. That conversation basically lead to him saying that he doesn't want me to "change" but that he... does want me to change-- he thinks that the person he dates should dress up to "impress" him occasionally. When he asked me "why are you making me break up with you?" I decided that I couldn't handle the relationship anymore... and i said goodbye.
Why we broke up: see "the codependancy factor."
Damn it... aren't there any sane people in this world? I think the problem is that I'm too insane for any of the sane people to want to date.. yet I can't deal with those of my kind.
Do you think you're sane?
I'm not sane.
...
Me.
the mental illness: feels like the only way to be worth anything is by helping people become comfortable in their own skin. Codependant.
The codependancy factor: is drawn to people who seem secure on the outside by actually are incredibly insecure... because she thinks that she has the ability to be the support they need to find themselves. She believes that although she can certainly help people on the way to their happiness, she is not the person who can ever be with someone when they actually reach this stage of ultimate life fullfillment.
The goods: intelligent, observant, creative, fun, silly, good for a laugh, good listener, etc.
Recent contacts: uhh... N/A.
why we broke up: We didn't. I tried.. but I couldn't break up with myself. It just doesn't work.
...
"life is a hiccup."
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(ps: Hazel, nice pics there from your set. You are very beautiful and the only reason you were reject I can see would have been because of the photographer...not meaning to insult them in anyway, because they are good...yes, I am up to date, am I?)
Sanity and productive relationshps are SO overrated, and SO 2001.