i posted this on my facebook group
I guess I should start, monday night chris and i had a fight we don't fight often but this was all screaming and yelling and he punched a whole in our plastic dresser and cut his arm. About what? I was grumpy apparently all day and week and jealous. I was mad at him cause he wants me to be open and honest and when i am like saying i was jealous he gets pissy at me for telling him. Things are better now after we both calmed down we talked and resolved issues and I wrapped his arm up. On his part i think it is a lot of stress do to his penis issues. He hasn't orgasamed in over a month he can't finish with himself either, and he can't stay hard and is loosing sensation. Went to doc and we are halfing a pill that might be causing this, it wasn't the answer he wanted to hear but we shall see what happens, if it doesn't help maybe a RX to help
Fighting over text is the worst.
Chris was planning a guy bonding trip to Disneyland with friends from work. They are going this saturday all day. For awhile it was just 3 guys and if they didn't get a 4th i was going to go with them. My feelings were really hurt cause I just couldn't go with them. I didn't tell him that cause I knew he would blow it our of proportion.
So today he texts me saying i am glad i will got along with the 4th member. So i ask ok who is he do you know him. And he says yeah but it's a her. I was so pissed off it was a guy only thing and all of a sudden some cousin gets to go cause she works in a different department at his workplace. Yes i am mad cause a girl gets to go when i didn't get to go i am also upset cause he was supposed to go with people from work that he actually know and her never even met this girl. I was trying to explain all this to him and all he gets i am jealous cause a girl is going and I don't trust him. I keep texting back it's not a trust issue i am not jealous I would of told him straight out "I am jealous"
So of course I get pissy and text things like boo hoo when he says he is hurt that he thinks i don't trust him even after telling him multiple times that it wasn't trust i was upset about. And saying he should go alone cause he told me he doesn't work with anyone.
Just as I was going to text and and ask if this was done he goes and texts me that i must sure like pushing him away since i seem to be doing it a lot lately. I just totally lost it. I couldn't believe he would say that. I wrote back how much that hurt me and how off base he is. And how i would be devestaed without him if he left me of died or cheated and that i just couldn't live without him. I asked how he could say that to me and why he hates me soo much lately.
I get a text back that about fighting last week cause i threw a remote at him and hit him. Of course i threw a remote at him cause he called me a bitch and i they it at the ground really. And how i followed him around hitting him. I hit him once in the shoulder for the bitch thing and once when he walked away from me mumbling things at me. He deserved it both times. Hes lucky I didn't punch his other front tooth out.
I am so lost at what to do anymore, I tell him how i feel and he doesn't want to hear it and gets mad at me for telling him how i feel. I am just so hurt and upset and i am tired of crying. I'm all puffy now. Usually writing things out helps me but I just feel like shit now. How am i supposed to be when he gets home?
now he says he wants a baby, we have always agreed not to have kids and i don't see myself changing my mind on this ever.
He missed 2 days of work cause he came down with a cold. People from work have texted him to see what's up cause he doesn't miss 2 days of work in a row. i assumed it was through Facebook but no they are actually texting him one was from a girl he works with. and it really bothers me that this girl is texting him, she has 2 kids and is single. Apparently she is one of the people he vents to at work. What bothers me even more he has kept his cell on him in his pocket since we got home and usually he puts in it his drawer. He even went on facebook and acted like the texts were from facebook.
should i confront him on this? i am afraid he is going to throw it back at me that i dont trust him and i am a jealous freak. in reality i feel like he is lying to me and that is not cool
he says i have nothing to worry about with her, but i have never heard him talk about her as a friend before, he just says someone i talked to at work with everyone i ask oh is ti so and so and he says no someone else. what also worries me she has kids and now all of a sudden he wants kids and she is a brunette and he has a thing for those too, I feel so lost right now
he acts like he never gets jealous, who is that possible? I also feel like he doesn't want me to meet his work friends either. He found out this guy has never been to knotts so he asks if my mom can get 4 tickets i though yeah we can go and brandon and hif gf. I find out later no him and brandon go then me and him go a different day.
I guess I should start, monday night chris and i had a fight we don't fight often but this was all screaming and yelling and he punched a whole in our plastic dresser and cut his arm. About what? I was grumpy apparently all day and week and jealous. I was mad at him cause he wants me to be open and honest and when i am like saying i was jealous he gets pissy at me for telling him. Things are better now after we both calmed down we talked and resolved issues and I wrapped his arm up. On his part i think it is a lot of stress do to his penis issues. He hasn't orgasamed in over a month he can't finish with himself either, and he can't stay hard and is loosing sensation. Went to doc and we are halfing a pill that might be causing this, it wasn't the answer he wanted to hear but we shall see what happens, if it doesn't help maybe a RX to help
Fighting over text is the worst.
Chris was planning a guy bonding trip to Disneyland with friends from work. They are going this saturday all day. For awhile it was just 3 guys and if they didn't get a 4th i was going to go with them. My feelings were really hurt cause I just couldn't go with them. I didn't tell him that cause I knew he would blow it our of proportion.
So today he texts me saying i am glad i will got along with the 4th member. So i ask ok who is he do you know him. And he says yeah but it's a her. I was so pissed off it was a guy only thing and all of a sudden some cousin gets to go cause she works in a different department at his workplace. Yes i am mad cause a girl gets to go when i didn't get to go i am also upset cause he was supposed to go with people from work that he actually know and her never even met this girl. I was trying to explain all this to him and all he gets i am jealous cause a girl is going and I don't trust him. I keep texting back it's not a trust issue i am not jealous I would of told him straight out "I am jealous"
So of course I get pissy and text things like boo hoo when he says he is hurt that he thinks i don't trust him even after telling him multiple times that it wasn't trust i was upset about. And saying he should go alone cause he told me he doesn't work with anyone.
Just as I was going to text and and ask if this was done he goes and texts me that i must sure like pushing him away since i seem to be doing it a lot lately. I just totally lost it. I couldn't believe he would say that. I wrote back how much that hurt me and how off base he is. And how i would be devestaed without him if he left me of died or cheated and that i just couldn't live without him. I asked how he could say that to me and why he hates me soo much lately.
I get a text back that about fighting last week cause i threw a remote at him and hit him. Of course i threw a remote at him cause he called me a bitch and i they it at the ground really. And how i followed him around hitting him. I hit him once in the shoulder for the bitch thing and once when he walked away from me mumbling things at me. He deserved it both times. Hes lucky I didn't punch his other front tooth out.
I am so lost at what to do anymore, I tell him how i feel and he doesn't want to hear it and gets mad at me for telling him how i feel. I am just so hurt and upset and i am tired of crying. I'm all puffy now. Usually writing things out helps me but I just feel like shit now. How am i supposed to be when he gets home?
now he says he wants a baby, we have always agreed not to have kids and i don't see myself changing my mind on this ever.
He missed 2 days of work cause he came down with a cold. People from work have texted him to see what's up cause he doesn't miss 2 days of work in a row. i assumed it was through Facebook but no they are actually texting him one was from a girl he works with. and it really bothers me that this girl is texting him, she has 2 kids and is single. Apparently she is one of the people he vents to at work. What bothers me even more he has kept his cell on him in his pocket since we got home and usually he puts in it his drawer. He even went on facebook and acted like the texts were from facebook.
should i confront him on this? i am afraid he is going to throw it back at me that i dont trust him and i am a jealous freak. in reality i feel like he is lying to me and that is not cool
he says i have nothing to worry about with her, but i have never heard him talk about her as a friend before, he just says someone i talked to at work with everyone i ask oh is ti so and so and he says no someone else. what also worries me she has kids and now all of a sudden he wants kids and she is a brunette and he has a thing for those too, I feel so lost right now
he acts like he never gets jealous, who is that possible? I also feel like he doesn't want me to meet his work friends either. He found out this guy has never been to knotts so he asks if my mom can get 4 tickets i though yeah we can go and brandon and hif gf. I find out later no him and brandon go then me and him go a different day.
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cockzombie:
Yes, you should confront him about this, but not by text. And let him know if he has any other serious problems that may be hurtful, that in the future to man up and not tell you via text message. Remind him that you don't want a baby, never have- it's not a solution, and which way the door is. Also- it's not a jealousy thing with that girl he's talking to, it's an appropriate thing. It isn't appropriate for him to be having that kind of interaction with her as a married man, PERIOD. He knows it or he wouldn't be trying to cover his tracks.
dmstarsailor:
I think you and him should try to have a calm talk about this and try to get everything out that is bothering yall. I really don't know what else to say. I wish I could be more help to you. Maybe try telling him to try and see things from your point of view and how he would feel if the roles were reversed. I hope everything works out.