Been so so so so so so busy!!!! 
I have decided to never move to anyplace ever again. I shall sit in one place and let the world develop around me, in a way that does not involve me packing or lugging things.
I hate moving. I hate changing things. I hate disturbing the everyday, natural order of my life. Fuck, I don't even like rearranging furniture. Once a chair is put someplace, it will stay there forever.(or at least until it starts to meld into the carpet. Then maybe I'll put it in the alley. Maybe. If it's a good day. And if I feel like it. On second thought, no. The chair stays!)
I do have an off-topic "Can Everybody Give Me Advice?" type of question though, if anyone wants to help.
Here it is:
I have a friend that I talk to regularly. ( I will use this
monkey to represent their name) Anyway, has some issues with self esteem, depression, self-injury, etc... Just the general "feeling like shit, life's crushing me and I'm unhappy" type of . We all know people like this. My problem is that if I make an offhand comment or say anything even semi-snarky*, it is used as fuel for the "I Hate Myself" fire they've got going. I can't disagree with their views, or I'm not being supportive. I can't, in any way, be negative about something they do or it's treason and I'm the bastard. What to do?? Cut off all communication? Advise they quit blaming me or I'll save them the trouble and kill them myself? I'm lost. Any advice? It will be appreciated.
*snarky-adjective: meaning ironic, slightly depreciating,and a little bit angry all at once.
I have decided to never move to anyplace ever again. I shall sit in one place and let the world develop around me, in a way that does not involve me packing or lugging things.
I hate moving. I hate changing things. I hate disturbing the everyday, natural order of my life. Fuck, I don't even like rearranging furniture. Once a chair is put someplace, it will stay there forever.(or at least until it starts to meld into the carpet. Then maybe I'll put it in the alley. Maybe. If it's a good day. And if I feel like it. On second thought, no. The chair stays!)
I do have an off-topic "Can Everybody Give Me Advice?" type of question though, if anyone wants to help.
Here it is:
I have a friend that I talk to regularly. ( I will use this
monkey to represent their name) Anyway, has some issues with self esteem, depression, self-injury, etc... Just the general "feeling like shit, life's crushing me and I'm unhappy" type of . We all know people like this. My problem is that if I make an offhand comment or say anything even semi-snarky*, it is used as fuel for the "I Hate Myself" fire they've got going. I can't disagree with their views, or I'm not being supportive. I can't, in any way, be negative about something they do or it's treason and I'm the bastard. What to do?? Cut off all communication? Advise they quit blaming me or I'll save them the trouble and kill them myself? I'm lost. Any advice? It will be appreciated.
*snarky-adjective: meaning ironic, slightly depreciating,and a little bit angry all at once.
dragonchylde:
Uh I know the type..usually its best to just back away for a bit or hell just tell them how you feel about it and hope they will see things from your point of view..but I usually just back away for a bit.