Why must it be so difficult to get along?
Bear with me, the beginning of this might look bad on me but by the end I'm sure you will agree.
I'm starting to suspect the media is manipulating us into a gender war, primarily through the corruption of social movements like #MeToo. I do not believe it a coincidence that just as we seem to start making real strides in moving on from racist and homophobic ideals, that suddenly such seeds of division are sewn between genders now.
Before I continue I must reiterate one vital thing: I am absolutely not defending sexual predators and other weak monsters. Their horrors must be brought to light, they must be hunted relentlessly, and justice and security must be delivered to the innocent. Domestic or sexual assault and rape are some of my few rage triggers, acting to anger what phobias are to fear and so I do not denounce a movement aimed at these goals lightly. Nonetheless, #MeToo has been changed from a positive movement about female empowerment and justice, to a vitriolic tool used to project (often) misinformed hatreds for the sole purpose of greater division between our genders.
The simple truth is neither side has any real idea what it's like to be the other. Those of us with strong empathy can sense an idea of it, but can never truly understand.
For instance, men are often hated on for the frequency of insatiable promiscuity but women typically don't have the same primal instinct to spread as much seed as possible. No one shames the bee for needing to pollinate and honestly they are essentially parallel functions. Conversely, most women can simply not understand the frustration that comes with our increased difficulty to process emotion. Whether how much of that is attributable to modern social conventions, and how much is due to our evolution, it really fucking sucks. Much of that time, especially while young, it simply manifests in anger because we lack the means to process it at all but that is one emotion we've evolved strongly.
Similarly, guys can we agree to cut the shit and shut the fuck up when it comes to periods and pregnancies? We get a flu and we are out of commission for a week. THEY GROW FUCKING HUMANS AND ARE JUDGED FOR THE TOLLS THAT BRINGS? (sorry for caps really had to emphasize that point). Once again emotions will be second example, because ladies on behalf of guys everywhere I apologize for dismissing you as crazy, when they're just mood swings that you're struggling to process yourself. Thanks to BPD I can somewhat relate to these mood swings. So to any of my bros still reading this, your girl is not a psycho (I mean unless she actually is then run dude run) simply for struggling with her emotions. The simple truth is that the depth of her spectrum is so much more vast and deep than your own you literally could not handle it.
Ultimately my point is this: can we all just agree to stop spewing so much vitriol towards one another for what we don't understand, and instead strive harder towards that understanding? Fuck sakes guys the planet is dying we really don't have time for a gender war first.
As a closing thought, if you still believe #MeToo to be a movement or equality consider that Neil deGrasse Tyson was taken off air for 2 months over false allegations. Cardi B straight up admitted to drugging and robbing men and it likely only got her more plays.
Ps please don't dismiss this as misogyny, It's technically dishonest to say I believe in equality because in truth I hold women in much higher regard than men, and all the people I hold dearest are female. And of course women look way better naked