Just a few things that had me thinking today
Let me clarify something before I get started these are MY views... this doesn't mean you have to agree... it just means I expressed myself first on a blog so if you don't like what I have to say.... yet you don't write about your ideals don't cry about it... just get to writing.
OK now that I have covered my ass... some people in the swing lifestyle that I just don't get...
1) People that think that this is the solution for a poor relationship.... It is most definitely not! If your not comfortable with your own marriage, have great communication and trust with each other let alone love your spouse in every way shape and form.... SWINGING WILL NOT WORK!!!!! Don't get into this lifestyle thinking that it will... Several times I have seen couples break up just because one or the other didn't want to swing or and I have seen this several times... they came to parties looking for a new mate... I hate getting into situations like that... and I have been in that situation once or twice. One time the guy had no clue that his wife was shopping for a new hubby.... the other time, well, the gal felt that she wasn't being treated right at home, so using conversation that she saved from our talks... well it worked... he started treating her better... and I wasn't liked by him, and she stopped talking. Haven't seen them at a party in a year... and there is a big part of me that would really like to see her. I'm not mad at her about it, hey she saved her marriage... they are supposed to be at this weekends party... I'll keep you posted. Anyways lets get on with the next one
2) Posers... Ok I think people the the lifestyle can be in it for various reasons... but if your not in the lifestyle, why do you want to go to a swing party? It doesn't make sense at all even if your the single bi female only group... hey at least your swinging.... well kinda swinging...
3) Ok what really doesn't make any sense is on some swinger sites when a couple will show off one spouse and have a face picture and everything, yet not one pic of the other spouse at all or even funnier... when they have a pic but with the face blocked out.... um mm HELLO! if your afraid of someone seeing you on the site... don't you think they will probably know your spouse? Also guys... I know that having pictures of your wife is cool and all but ladies wanna see you too... and I'm not talking a dick shot... The whole you, as in face and all. Well that's Tab says she would like to see anyways.
Ok speaking of pictures... I know this sounds kinda fickle of me... but... what are ya supposed to do when you reply to a nice picture of a smoking hot body then you exchange pics and you understand why they hid their face... call me picky ... but I do have my standards
4) The jealous couples... Ok if your the jealous type then don't try swinging... it isn't for you. This also has the guys that want to have their cake and eat it too category... if you think your woman will just want to have females in the bed you have another thing coming... eventually she will want to have another man in the bed and then what are ya gonna do??? Say no? Are you that afraid that you suck in bed and if another guy plays with your wife she is gonna leave ya? well it looks like we have come full circle cause that means you have a problem in your relationship...
No matter what, I guess there will always be these types of people at a party... however thanks to good friends in the lifestyle, we can weed them out together... and not mess with them. then they will take the hint when they are all alone in their corner with all the others...
Remember no names were mentioned so if this pissed you off... time to look in a mirror.
Let me clarify something before I get started these are MY views... this doesn't mean you have to agree... it just means I expressed myself first on a blog so if you don't like what I have to say.... yet you don't write about your ideals don't cry about it... just get to writing.
OK now that I have covered my ass... some people in the swing lifestyle that I just don't get...
1) People that think that this is the solution for a poor relationship.... It is most definitely not! If your not comfortable with your own marriage, have great communication and trust with each other let alone love your spouse in every way shape and form.... SWINGING WILL NOT WORK!!!!! Don't get into this lifestyle thinking that it will... Several times I have seen couples break up just because one or the other didn't want to swing or and I have seen this several times... they came to parties looking for a new mate... I hate getting into situations like that... and I have been in that situation once or twice. One time the guy had no clue that his wife was shopping for a new hubby.... the other time, well, the gal felt that she wasn't being treated right at home, so using conversation that she saved from our talks... well it worked... he started treating her better... and I wasn't liked by him, and she stopped talking. Haven't seen them at a party in a year... and there is a big part of me that would really like to see her. I'm not mad at her about it, hey she saved her marriage... they are supposed to be at this weekends party... I'll keep you posted. Anyways lets get on with the next one
2) Posers... Ok I think people the the lifestyle can be in it for various reasons... but if your not in the lifestyle, why do you want to go to a swing party? It doesn't make sense at all even if your the single bi female only group... hey at least your swinging.... well kinda swinging...
3) Ok what really doesn't make any sense is on some swinger sites when a couple will show off one spouse and have a face picture and everything, yet not one pic of the other spouse at all or even funnier... when they have a pic but with the face blocked out.... um mm HELLO! if your afraid of someone seeing you on the site... don't you think they will probably know your spouse? Also guys... I know that having pictures of your wife is cool and all but ladies wanna see you too... and I'm not talking a dick shot... The whole you, as in face and all. Well that's Tab says she would like to see anyways.
Ok speaking of pictures... I know this sounds kinda fickle of me... but... what are ya supposed to do when you reply to a nice picture of a smoking hot body then you exchange pics and you understand why they hid their face... call me picky ... but I do have my standards
4) The jealous couples... Ok if your the jealous type then don't try swinging... it isn't for you. This also has the guys that want to have their cake and eat it too category... if you think your woman will just want to have females in the bed you have another thing coming... eventually she will want to have another man in the bed and then what are ya gonna do??? Say no? Are you that afraid that you suck in bed and if another guy plays with your wife she is gonna leave ya? well it looks like we have come full circle cause that means you have a problem in your relationship...
No matter what, I guess there will always be these types of people at a party... however thanks to good friends in the lifestyle, we can weed them out together... and not mess with them. then they will take the hint when they are all alone in their corner with all the others...
Remember no names were mentioned so if this pissed you off... time to look in a mirror.