How open is an open relationship?

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Im guessing it would all depend on the ones involved. How many have heard or seen the husband with many wives? Not as much as the concept of a wife with many husbands. And what about wife with many wives and husbands. Ive been having deep thoughts about this as i go over my past relationships. Trying to figure out what i really want out of them. I want to love and i know i have the capability to love more than one. Im doing it now i just dont express it. Thoughts and opinions?

kingsiren:
My wife and I have an open relationship and it is my first and best (clearly since we married) relationship. It aids to a certain level of honesty that most monogamous relationships suffer without. It's not that we don't love each other, we just understand that we are both human. To expect monogamy is, to us, to expect a lifetime if unachievable perfection and false happiness.
torlano:

    I'll tell you what happened with me:

    

        One day I realized that the only time I wanted to be in a traditional exclusive romantic relationship was when I wasn't in one; it was a mind game. After that, I basically deprogrammed society's expectations out of me and started rolling my own way. I established my own personal boundaries well then invited ladies who were congruent with them into my sphere.    

    

        If I desire to sustain a relationship with a woman, I want to know her well and have her be a solid friend of mine before we become sexually active. I don't want to become attached to someone if we're incompatible on many levels.    

    

        I'd suggest to not get deeply involved with people who can't or won't support themselves. Some folk are always in a relationship because they want another person, or other people, to pay the overwhelming majority of their bills. Sometimes this also allows them to live well above their means. Often, they're going to tell you whatever they believe you want to hear.    

    

        I've always felt that other people are compliments not completions. Other people may certainly enhance my happiness and they're not responsible for it.    

    

        I should note I've more than a few deep meaningful friendships with ladies that do not include sexual activity. I would prefer to forgo sexual activity with a great female friend if I believe it would undermine our relationship for whatever the reason.    

    

        Open relationships aren't for everyone and they've worked well for me. They work for me because they're built on a foundation that includes respect, admiration, honesty/integrity and shared values. Of course, "chemistry" needs to be present. If you've any questions, feel free to ask.    


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