You know, I try to lead a peaceful life, but unneccesary social drama seems to seek me out. What the hell.
So, here's the rant:
A girl I work with (N), who had been a sweet girl and very friendly to me at work, introduced me to a girl she was dating (M). M was really cool, and I liked her a lot. She seemed very interesting, and had a laid-back attitude that I thought was cool. The three of us hung out once, and had a nice time. N was constantly inviting me out with the two of them to go clubbing, but I didn't have the time. I confided in her that I thought M was cute, and that I hoped to meet a girl like that one day.
I met M a second time when we all met up at a local Rennisance fair, but I barely got a chance to say hi to her or talk to her before my friends dragged me off. That night, I saw her on Myspace and befriended her. I sent her a messege letting her know who I was and saying hi.
I didn't see N at work for a few weeks, because I think she was out of town. She only works like two or three weeks each month, because she travels a lot.
So, M and I emailed each other back and forth, being friendly and getting to know each other. We were messeging each other about every day. She was really cool, and I liked talking to her. It wasn't anything out of the ordinary, just small talk and how-was-your-day type stuff. At one point, I told her about Sampson passing away and linked her to some photos of him, and she sent her condolences. But all in all, we were becoming friendly.
Later, I had a conversation about it all with a seperate friend, explaining about how I was talking to this girl online and that she was dating a friend of mine. I asked if she thought N would get jeolous, and she said, "Well, maybe you should mention it to her, so she doesn't think anything is going on between you two." I agreed and said I'd bring it up next time I worked with her.
That night, I came home to a *very nasty* Myspace messege from N, calling me alll sorts of names and accusing me of trying to get into her girlfriend's pants. She said I was creepy for emailing M and sending her pictures, and that I was a sneaky weasel for doing it all behing her back. She was like, "You didn't think the two of you could actually be friends, did you? What were you thinking? Did you think she wouldn't tell me you were emailing her?"
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Yes, I did think we could be friends. And I assumed that M was telling her that I was messeging her. I hadn't specifically asked N about it because I hadn't seen her for about two weeks.
I didn't think that I did anything wrong, so I sent her email back, trying to cool her off and stay levelheaded. I told her that I thought M was nice and that I was just chatting with her, but that if it bothered her, I wouldn't messege M anymore, because N's friendship was important to me. I sent a messege to M explaining what had happened, appologizing if I caused any stress between them, and telling her that I wouldn't messege her anymore. She was sad and confused, but she said that she understood if I wanted to stop messeging her try any save my friendship with N.
At work, N was cold as ice and wouldn't look at me or sit on the same side of the room as me, and other childish things like that. I didn't bother trying to talk to her, because I knew she'd just explode at me. I figured she just needed to cool off, and then we'd be able to dicuss it as adults.
Wrong!
I came home to a second email from her, flying off the handle and calling me more names. She said that of *course* she wouldn't have been ok with me emailing her girlfriend, if I could have been bothered to ask her, and that if I thought that she would be ok with it, I wasn't just creepy, I was also a moron. She used as proof that I was trying to get into her girlfriend's pants the fact that I had told N that I wanted to find a girl like M. (It's true. Just one a little more, I don't know... SINGLE!!)
At first, I had wanted to try and save my friendship with N, but now I feel like the cute, sweet mask has come off and I'm seeing the real her. Frankly, I'm much less disappointed about losing my friendship with Nr than about having to give up my friendship with M. ESPECIALLY after seeing this side of her. I wanted to try and save the friendship, but I just can't forgive the way she treated me.
The kicker is that she's always tried to make it clear to me that her and M are casual, and that they saw other people on the side. She's always coming up with stories of other girls and guys she's hooked up with or is trying to hook up with, and that she's been with girls from work. She even once told me she wanted to go to a lesbian club with me so that she could dance with other girls without having to sit with her girlfriend all night!
So where did this psycho, overprotective, my-girlfriend-can't-have-other-friends side of her come from?!
GAH!
Was I wrong for emailing M? Is it wrong that I want to keep emailing her, and risk the wrath of N? Could keeping these two characters seperate as you read this be any more confusing? Tune in next week! Same bat time, same bat channel.
So, here's the rant:
A girl I work with (N), who had been a sweet girl and very friendly to me at work, introduced me to a girl she was dating (M). M was really cool, and I liked her a lot. She seemed very interesting, and had a laid-back attitude that I thought was cool. The three of us hung out once, and had a nice time. N was constantly inviting me out with the two of them to go clubbing, but I didn't have the time. I confided in her that I thought M was cute, and that I hoped to meet a girl like that one day.
I met M a second time when we all met up at a local Rennisance fair, but I barely got a chance to say hi to her or talk to her before my friends dragged me off. That night, I saw her on Myspace and befriended her. I sent her a messege letting her know who I was and saying hi.
I didn't see N at work for a few weeks, because I think she was out of town. She only works like two or three weeks each month, because she travels a lot.
So, M and I emailed each other back and forth, being friendly and getting to know each other. We were messeging each other about every day. She was really cool, and I liked talking to her. It wasn't anything out of the ordinary, just small talk and how-was-your-day type stuff. At one point, I told her about Sampson passing away and linked her to some photos of him, and she sent her condolences. But all in all, we were becoming friendly.
Later, I had a conversation about it all with a seperate friend, explaining about how I was talking to this girl online and that she was dating a friend of mine. I asked if she thought N would get jeolous, and she said, "Well, maybe you should mention it to her, so she doesn't think anything is going on between you two." I agreed and said I'd bring it up next time I worked with her.
That night, I came home to a *very nasty* Myspace messege from N, calling me alll sorts of names and accusing me of trying to get into her girlfriend's pants. She said I was creepy for emailing M and sending her pictures, and that I was a sneaky weasel for doing it all behing her back. She was like, "You didn't think the two of you could actually be friends, did you? What were you thinking? Did you think she wouldn't tell me you were emailing her?"
....
Yes, I did think we could be friends. And I assumed that M was telling her that I was messeging her. I hadn't specifically asked N about it because I hadn't seen her for about two weeks.
I didn't think that I did anything wrong, so I sent her email back, trying to cool her off and stay levelheaded. I told her that I thought M was nice and that I was just chatting with her, but that if it bothered her, I wouldn't messege M anymore, because N's friendship was important to me. I sent a messege to M explaining what had happened, appologizing if I caused any stress between them, and telling her that I wouldn't messege her anymore. She was sad and confused, but she said that she understood if I wanted to stop messeging her try any save my friendship with N.
At work, N was cold as ice and wouldn't look at me or sit on the same side of the room as me, and other childish things like that. I didn't bother trying to talk to her, because I knew she'd just explode at me. I figured she just needed to cool off, and then we'd be able to dicuss it as adults.
Wrong!
I came home to a second email from her, flying off the handle and calling me more names. She said that of *course* she wouldn't have been ok with me emailing her girlfriend, if I could have been bothered to ask her, and that if I thought that she would be ok with it, I wasn't just creepy, I was also a moron. She used as proof that I was trying to get into her girlfriend's pants the fact that I had told N that I wanted to find a girl like M. (It's true. Just one a little more, I don't know... SINGLE!!)
At first, I had wanted to try and save my friendship with N, but now I feel like the cute, sweet mask has come off and I'm seeing the real her. Frankly, I'm much less disappointed about losing my friendship with Nr than about having to give up my friendship with M. ESPECIALLY after seeing this side of her. I wanted to try and save the friendship, but I just can't forgive the way she treated me.
The kicker is that she's always tried to make it clear to me that her and M are casual, and that they saw other people on the side. She's always coming up with stories of other girls and guys she's hooked up with or is trying to hook up with, and that she's been with girls from work. She even once told me she wanted to go to a lesbian club with me so that she could dance with other girls without having to sit with her girlfriend all night!
So where did this psycho, overprotective, my-girlfriend-can't-have-other-friends side of her come from?!
GAH!
Was I wrong for emailing M? Is it wrong that I want to keep emailing her, and risk the wrath of N? Could keeping these two characters seperate as you read this be any more confusing? Tune in next week! Same bat time, same bat channel.