congrats on coming out, your lovely by the way

Poor lil Dea! Well I certainly had some fun the other night, it was a pleasure to have finally met you.

You coming out tonight???

hey sexy m.f.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time right now. It was good to meet you and I hope to hang out again.

Hmmmn...
Mind if I chime in? I dunno, maybe you've come across a post or two of mine, but I'll just assume that you're wondering who the hell I am to be posting in your journal....

#1- Congrats on coming out...to your parents, no less.... I feel thats the toughest one of all... so yaay for you.

#2- Now this is just a visceral gut feeling I get from reading about the hours after telling them... Your mom may be "labeling" in an effort to gain some comfort from saying it outloud....and maybe further adding the "butch" label as a way to grasp the concept that her child is sexual, and wondering what that means to her. I don't really think she was trying to box you into the "label maker" as much as she was trying to become accustom to the reality that her daughter is not straight.

#3- this ones a bit more complicated, and I may be projecting, so just blow me off if it doesn't make sense....
parents, by virtue of their generation have a hard time coping with their kids sexuality in general (they are in their 50-60's noh?)if they learn their children are sexual...they don't want to think about it... but they resign themselves to it. Now add in the gay/lesbian factor. the concept is one they can grasp, eventually they work it out through their heads. Now add that you are sexual with a person because of their being...not their gender and all hell breaks loose.... they cannot grasp the notion that gender is irrelevant.... because of their lifes experience, you are either one or the other...

#3 Give it a bit of time, let mom label you any way she can in order to come to terms with it. over time, she will grow and the two of you can come to a deeper understanding about who you are....no boxes, no labels, just you in all your glory... she will see that you are an amazing spirit who is capable of loving others for their soulfullness.

#4 I think mom...even in her determination to box you in is doing a damn good job. She is at least trying to accept/understand.... let's face it... mom could be labeling you "sick. demented, perverted". It seems to me that she's at least willing to love you no matter what...

#5 It took my parents a long time to deal with my sexuality... I married a man, but have had more female lovers than male, many after being married (we have a poly marriage)so not only did they have to come to terms with my sexuality...but they had to deal with (but still do not accept) that my marriage was not "traditional" as they know it...

Either way...yaay for you!!!
Gracie

hey, hun. I wanted to see how you were doing a few days after coming out...

Are you saying you'd like me better if I was a chick? lol

I scored:
30% Hades
20% Hermes
20% Apollo
10% Dionysus
10% Poseidon
10% Ares

Basically this says I'm a total contradiction. I'm cowardly yet courageous, not especially heroic or dignified yet noble and reasonable, dispassionate yet interested in helping you follow your dreams.

It did comment that this combination is in a guy good for 3somes with two women, something I thought was quite nice.

Evildoc you lie! Bad, Bad Evildoc!

Furrrrrck.... I'm 43% gay (4% higher than the 39% average)... I think it's related to all the locker room questions and having seen men naked there... I dunno... Maybe it's just a military thing, but their are not many shy people in the locker room.

39% purity..... What the fuck!!! What did I do so wrong.... Geez, I remember way back when, when I scored like 70% purity.... HA!

sorry about what's going on? Don't be! I'm stressed but relationships have intricate levels with mixed emotions and she's worth all of my efforts. HeeHee, it's hard for straight men to get it sometimes!

Oh and by the way. She said the "C" word last night. She's my girlfriend and I am hers, no conditons or anything. It was all just confusion on what she thought I wanted. I want her!

Hey!...lol....how are ya?....I also got an email telling me it was pretty so I don't stress over the girl calling me a perv!You got to throw in a dog with the tiddy and kitties! right?....so whats up sexy?

by the way are you a nite owl too?

It is great to look into someone's eyes. I'm glad you have someone like that. Sorry work is not working out for you, so I hope find better, more stable, just as enjoyable work soon. *hug* and stay out of trouble

So the party will probably be the weekend before... but we haven't decided yet...

a new christian rapper??? where where??? i gotta get his cd.....
bests to you

P.S.

I used to live in So Cal.... Coronado, to be exact.... Loved it, can't wait to go back - maybe next November... We'll see.... I think Monterey is next - for a while.

Think you'll be well by then?

Awww... Girls suck sometimes.
What can you do??

I never understood Christian bands.

I liked your Grinch comment.
Good stuff.