It has been a slow week for me.Nothing really major. EXCEPT..
Okay, for those of you that read my journal entries maybe you can provide me with some advice. Especially the guys, I need a guy opinion on the matter...
I had the friend that lived down here in SD. We got to really know each other in a short amount of time. He was moving outta town. Well, we both have similar interests, etc. Which made him attractive to me. HOWEVER, I was (and still) not looking for a committment and neither was he. So, we just had some fun. The weird part behind all this, is that before I came into the picture. He was hanging out a lot with this other girl who (to me is drop dead gorgeous!) She's a natural beauty, thinner and seems like she'd be cool.. but I've met her and she didn't say much.. maybe cause she didn't know any one at the party where I met her.. Sorry that's besides the point.
Well, we had our goodbye sex. and stuff. I'm a woman of my word. If I say I don't want attachment, I mean it. Well, since he's been gone. He will randomly email and call to check in with me. I just think he's just getting adjusted to the whole thing. New starts are always hard (but this is his hometown, so it couldn't be that hard!)
I had mentioned that I'd be in his area for a week. NOT for him, but for work and moving purposes. Ironically, i had put in to transfer to a college in that area. A long dream of mine BEFORE this whole thing....
Well, here's my problem. I am also visiting a girl-friend of mine but I also want a little play before I return home. So how do I balance this? She wants me to stay at her house (she lives with her christian parents). I'm NOT RELIGIOUS. but I don't want to provide the impression that I really like this guy by staying at his place... Should I get a hotel??
Also, I look at this guy as my "booty-call" as you put it. I'm too busy for a serious relationship. and I don't whore around.. keeping one is good enough for me...A guy friend told me (now, i need to know if this is true) that Women cannot have booty-calls and call the shots (like making the arrangements and/or demands) It's the guys that can have them... is this right?? AND because I don't want a relationship and I have been open and fwd with this to him.. Is it true that he views me as a challange and will be more inclined to try to get me interested him as boyfriend material??? Is this why he bothers with me?? I'm like 500 miles away.
Is this really ALL one big game?? Cause if it is, this sucks.. Okay peeps, tell me what you think and what I should do.. Hopefully you'll respond.
Thanks all!
Okay, for those of you that read my journal entries maybe you can provide me with some advice. Especially the guys, I need a guy opinion on the matter...
I had the friend that lived down here in SD. We got to really know each other in a short amount of time. He was moving outta town. Well, we both have similar interests, etc. Which made him attractive to me. HOWEVER, I was (and still) not looking for a committment and neither was he. So, we just had some fun. The weird part behind all this, is that before I came into the picture. He was hanging out a lot with this other girl who (to me is drop dead gorgeous!) She's a natural beauty, thinner and seems like she'd be cool.. but I've met her and she didn't say much.. maybe cause she didn't know any one at the party where I met her.. Sorry that's besides the point.
Well, we had our goodbye sex. and stuff. I'm a woman of my word. If I say I don't want attachment, I mean it. Well, since he's been gone. He will randomly email and call to check in with me. I just think he's just getting adjusted to the whole thing. New starts are always hard (but this is his hometown, so it couldn't be that hard!)
I had mentioned that I'd be in his area for a week. NOT for him, but for work and moving purposes. Ironically, i had put in to transfer to a college in that area. A long dream of mine BEFORE this whole thing....
Well, here's my problem. I am also visiting a girl-friend of mine but I also want a little play before I return home. So how do I balance this? She wants me to stay at her house (she lives with her christian parents). I'm NOT RELIGIOUS. but I don't want to provide the impression that I really like this guy by staying at his place... Should I get a hotel??
Also, I look at this guy as my "booty-call" as you put it. I'm too busy for a serious relationship. and I don't whore around.. keeping one is good enough for me...A guy friend told me (now, i need to know if this is true) that Women cannot have booty-calls and call the shots (like making the arrangements and/or demands) It's the guys that can have them... is this right?? AND because I don't want a relationship and I have been open and fwd with this to him.. Is it true that he views me as a challange and will be more inclined to try to get me interested him as boyfriend material??? Is this why he bothers with me?? I'm like 500 miles away.
Is this really ALL one big game?? Cause if it is, this sucks.. Okay peeps, tell me what you think and what I should do.. Hopefully you'll respond.
Thanks all!
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mines not an entire tree but a branch with lots of detailed petals, some are falling and it's blended with the sword. the sword is black/wht. the blossoms are colored. kind of a yin/yang life and death thing. the next are two twin tigers on my lower stomach.
hope all goes well with him, but you could always look at it this way atleast you HAVE a booty call I'm goin on 9months!
take care gorgeous~
Personally I think things are always different after sex. Things are always better at least for a bit.
I spend time single thinking about how I just want sex with friendship, without commitment if that is what it takes. Really I still have a thought of finding a soulmate, a lover who is my best friend. Then I settle for the sex/friendship/no commitment. There is a time where things are running smooth and everything is fanatasic. Next comes the wondering if sex is all that important or if sex with her is worth the headaches and effort. I try to figure out why we aren't more. Then the calling it all off. Someone is always more hurt then another. Then comes the part where all I want is a booty call. Without much emotional risk.