It's kind of funny how things work out. The same lovely lady I can never be with is now talking to me on a regular basis. This wouldn't mean much except that in the past, I considered myself lucky if we talked a couple times a month. I've also gotten possible hints that other girls I once liked may have actually felt the same way about me.
But of course I'm going to go after the girl that directly tells me she has a crush on another guy. Oh, and of course I'll go after the other girl that had a boyfriend and seems to avoid me whenever I try to talk to her. After all, it only makes sense to go after the ones that have virtually no interest in you, right?
I'm a dateless wonder. And by that, I mean I've never been on one..ever. Going on 20 years of solitude, but atleast you grow a strong sense of independence and self reliance. At this point, I'd probably have better luck if I tried to pick up a guy. Case in point: I've talked a little bit to a cute girl in my economics class. She's nice and everything, but of course I'm not the only guy trying to go after her..and her interest in me is vague at best.
Then there's a dude I've talked to in English that has a similar sense of humor/musical tastes. So we hang out one day after class, and he offers to buy me lunch. This from someone I've only known for a short time. Now see, if the average woman were that nice then I wouldn't be having this problem in the first place!
But of course I'm going to go after the girl that directly tells me she has a crush on another guy. Oh, and of course I'll go after the other girl that had a boyfriend and seems to avoid me whenever I try to talk to her. After all, it only makes sense to go after the ones that have virtually no interest in you, right?
I'm a dateless wonder. And by that, I mean I've never been on one..ever. Going on 20 years of solitude, but atleast you grow a strong sense of independence and self reliance. At this point, I'd probably have better luck if I tried to pick up a guy. Case in point: I've talked a little bit to a cute girl in my economics class. She's nice and everything, but of course I'm not the only guy trying to go after her..and her interest in me is vague at best.
Then there's a dude I've talked to in English that has a similar sense of humor/musical tastes. So we hang out one day after class, and he offers to buy me lunch. This from someone I've only known for a short time. Now see, if the average woman were that nice then I wouldn't be having this problem in the first place!
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I remember my first real big crush in high school. It was on a friend of mine, and all we would talk about was the boy (Another friend of mine) that she liked
The worst one of all had to be the girl I liked in my junior year...Talked to her for a while and so on, only to find out weeks later that she was, in fact, a lesbian. I guess that explained all the awkward silence in our conversations lol...
Fanglorious said:
After all, it only makes sense to go after the ones that have virtually no interest in you, right?
No, it makes sense to go for the ones you are interested in. Believe me, you don't want to end up with a girl you don't want...
Fanglorious said:
..and her interest in me is vague at best.
Dude. Don't talk yourself down! That's a sign of low self-esteem, and girls (hell, people in general) like people who ooze confidence. Why do you think people adore movie and sports stars? I'm not saying you should develop an ego out of this world, but if you be assertive and have confidence in the things you do, you'll go a long way. There will always be people who hate you, and likewise there will always be people who like you. Treat everyone as though they like you. This will attract those who really like you, and the ones who don't... well, who cares about 'em, right?
A trick that I find works for me is to hold no expectations when I introduce myself to a girl. This way I feel no loss if we go our separate ways. If things work out, then I've made a new friend, and then I can work on something a little more if I decide I like her personality.
Fanglorious said:
Now see, if the average woman were that nice then I wouldn't be having this problem in the first place!
There's a reason that girls avoid being this nice to us guys. You're a male and so am I. Now think about the nature of us males. What do you want most? To get down a girl's pants no doubt. Am I right? That's what most guys want, and most guys are quite shrewd and will go to any length to get it. Now if a girl made it easy for a guy, they could potentially be opening themselves up to a world of trouble. I think you should respect the fact that girls are hard to get for good reason. But don't let it get you down. Coz I'm sure you're not this type of male, and if you're confident enough to chat to girls without expectation, then I'm certain they'll see this too.
I could yammer on for hours with advice, but your not not going to get anything out of it unless you get out there and start making mistakes. We learn from mistakes, but rarely from successes. What do you have to lose? Your girlfriend?